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2013 Spending Plan WORK IN PROGRESS

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I’ve taken some time and put together a partial 2013 spending plan.  I say partial b/c I am currently not sure what my 2013 take home pay is actually going to work out to be because I made a lot of changes to help me with taxes, I now have my health insurance taken out, the reversing of the payroll tax “discount,” etc.  I was using the fact that I will not know my exact take home pay beginning in January 2013 as an excuse for not setting up a budget for my “spending money.”  I caught myself using that excuse so here I am to just get started.

By way of information for new readers, I’m in a good place with knowing my regular monthly bills and laid out those constants in a post about a month ago but it is those little here and there spending items that kept getting me and that I did not have a plan for.  I just had weekly spending money that had to cover things that came up.  That isn’t a great way to manage your money I have learned and so I’m trying to lay out something super specific.  My readers have challenged me to do so and while I’m thankful, I’m also a little cranky.  🙂  I don’t like getting this specific which is exactly why I must do it.

I’ve decided to go with the cash in envelopes system to start on these items. The “use my spending money” method is far too lenient.  I cannot keep track of what I am spending in that manner.  So, from each paycheck I will set aside cash in envelopes for these items:

Kid incidental spending (from this will come field trip fees, school pictures, fundraising contributions, teacher gifts, birthday gifts for parties they attend):  $20.  Looking back at this year’s spending it appears that January and February will be light on the spending for kid incidentals so I should be able to set aside $80-$100 as a good start on this fund.  (After re-reading the list you will see below I can already see that this category is too broad.  I’ll re-work it but am leaving it here as the learning tool it might be for a reader).

Clothing budget for me:  $25 per paycheck.  I received clothing as gifts (or gift cards that I can use toward clothing) so I am good on clothes and shoes for at least 3, probably 6, months.

Beauty Budget:  $25 per paycheck.  Since beginning the blog I have dramatically reduced my spending at the hair salon.  I mean DRAMATICALLY.  This fund will be for my now twice a year visits for a good cut and color as well as the cheap in between hair coloring I do at home.  I now use grocery store shampoo (but wash my hair much less frequently than I used to) and since that adds up to $15.00 about every six weeks (for the shampoo, conditioner and hair mousse), I incorporate that into my grocery budget.  This fund will also cover my twice a year make up purchases as well although I’m pretty low maintenance on the make up front.

Car Maintenance:  I’m setting aside $20 per paycheck to save up for somewhat major maintenance should it arise–oh and tires and brakes.  The vehicle I am driving has oil changes for life covered as well as the basic maintenance check.  This fund will be for the bigger stuff but I a pray that b/c my mileage use is SO low that this fund will not be needed much.

Okay I know this isn’t an all-inclusive list and I have distance to go on thinking about what items I need a separate line in the budget for, so I remembered a long time ago I had saved a list from a website that I now cannot recall the name of (apologies!) and somehow I dug it up.  I share it with you below as food for thought for myself AND anyone out there who may need help like I do in capturing where the money goes! I am going to use this list by starting to delete those that don’t apply.  I sometimes feel like I am standing in mud and cannot move when I try to think about these budget items.

  • Airline fares (and the luggage fees).
  • Alcohol (you may include this in dining out, but I would separate this from your grocery budget if you buy for take-home).
  • Alimony paid in or out.
  • Allowances (his, hers, kids …).
  • Appliances.
  • Baby formula or breastfeeding supplies.
  • Bank fees (such as when you order checks, use an out-of-network ATM, have debit card access fees, or pay a check-cashing fee).
  • Batteries.
  • Birthday gifts.
  • Bus fares.
  • Cable or satellite TV.
  • Car insurance.
  • Car payment and / or car purchase fund.
  • Car registration fees (including the driver license renewal fees).
  • Car repair and maintenance.
  • Cash assistance.
  • Child support paid in or out.
  • Christmas gifts.
  • Cleaning services.
  • Cleaning supplies.
  • Clothing.
  • Coffee shop.
  • College fund.
  • Computer and office supplies.
  • Condo or neighborhood association fees.
  • Coupons and rebates.
  • Credit card payments.
  • Day care and babysitter fees.
  • Dental insurance.
  • Diapers.
  • Dinners out.
  • Donations to church, non-profit or charity.
  • Dry cleaning.
  • Electric bill.
  • Emergency fund.
  • Fast food.
  • Fitness center or gym membership.
  • Fuel for the car.
  • Furniture purchases or repair.
  • Garden supplies.
  • Greeting cards.
  • Groceries.
  • Grocery assistance (such as you receiving food stamps or buying groceries for a family member.)
  • Haircuts, manicures, spa treatments.
  • Health insurance.
  • Hobbies.
  • Holiday candy and flowers (Valentine’s Day, Easter, Halloween …).
  • Home maintenance and repair.
  • Income taxes paid or refund received.
  • Income tax preparation fees.
  • Internet service.
  • Investments.
  • Landline phone.
  • Laundry service (as in coin-operated machines or drop-off laundry service).
  • Lawn care.
  • Legal expenses.
  • Life insurance.
  • Medical co-pay and deductible expenses.
  • Medical insurance payments.
  • Mortgage – primary.
  • Mortgage – secondary or home line of credit.
  • Movie tickets or DVD purchases.
  • Museum, park and zoo passes.
  • Natural gas, propane or heating oil bill.
  • Newspapers, books and magazine subscriptions.
  • Nuisance (aka annoying expenses). Yes, I did see that category on a budget list once!
  • Over-the-counter medications.
  • Parking passes and parking fees.
  • Payroll – regular.
  • Payroll – overtime.
  • Payroll – bonus or holiday pay.
  • Payroll – severance pay.
  • Personal care products.
  • Pet expenses.
  • Photo printing.
  • Postage.
  • Property taxes.
  • Property insurance.
  • Rent.
  • Retirement fund.
  • Satellite radio.
  • School lunches.
  • Sewer bill or septic tank maintenance.
  • Shoes.
  • Snacks.
  • Sports, club and activity fees and equipment (I should be able to save some money on equipment from Goalie Monkey).
  • Sports event tickets.
  • Student loan payments.
  • Taxi fares.
  • Textbooks.
  • Theater or concert tickets.
  • Tobacco.
  • Toiletries.
  • Trash and recycling bill.
  • Tuition and class fees.
  • Turnpike and bridge tolls.
  • Uniforms for work, school, scouts, or sports teams.
  • Union dues.
  • Unemployment benefits.
  • Vacations.
  • Vision insurance.
  • Water bill.
  • Wireless phone (including texting and data plans).
  • Wedding plans.
  • Work lunches.
  • Yearbook photos.

 

Feeling slightly discouraged…

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I am pretty much ready for 2012 to be in the books!  I’m trying not to get too down but feelings of discouragement are definitely pronounced right now.  I think this is normal considering what I’ve been through and what I am going through.  The good news is, I guess, that I’m not rushing out to spend money to make myself feel better, right?   I am looking forward to a fun time with friends tonight for a birthday party and then fun with my kids and family for New Year’s Eve.  Oh and I am still working out having taken up a few cycling/spin classes at the gym!  This tax thing has me experiencing a wide range of emotions.  The biggest one is relief though–because my logical brain knows I am lucky that I didn’t get screwed over any more than I did!  It could have been much, much worse.  The emotional part of my brain rages that a man I tried so hard to love well did this to me.

For those of you who may not have been around in August (and for my own healing), I’ve got to post Steve’s comment written on August 24, 2012.  This was just 5 days before he signed a lease behind my back.  I hope this is the last of my comments that reference him but I suspect with decisions he made regarding the filing of his tax return, this won’t be the last we hear of him.  As I read this earlier today I had another a-ha moment.  I am far from perfect and I am fully aware of my flaws.  I do, however, work hard to overcome my shortcomings and always strive to do better today than I did yesterday.  I put my all into whatever I try to do and I’ve been blessed to reach goals I’ve set.  I try always to put my God first. I have a great extended family, a good relationship with the father of my children, a lot of happy and healthy friendships, a good career and I bust my ass to raise happy and healthy children.  I am not without misses (as evidenced by my debt on the right hand side of this page!) but that too is being dealt with now.  It occurred to me that my very existence was a constant threat to Steve. 

Please insert “in my opinion” in front of all of the following statements:  Where my kids excelled, his struggled. While my relationhips with siblings, parents, aunts and all were sometimes challenging, the relationships were never completely severed.  Steve cut out the few family members he had from his life on a regular basis.  I earned my law degree with little delay and he always wanted to get his MBA but could never get around to getting everything done to make that happen–in spite of all of my offers of help.  I do not go a day without a friend checking in on me and I am a good friend in return. He had no friends to speak of.  In short, I believe I was a constant reminder of his failings. 

As I said when I first announced the split, I am not here to bash him or air out dirty laundry.  I am here to blog about debt.  Obviously my divorce has changed the debt pay off plan and so it is, therefore, relevant.  But the main reason I share is my heart and head and gut tell me there are people out there that need to read about my journey.  There are people out there who can’t fathom leaving the abusive marriage they may be in and, as cliche as it may sound, if one person is helped by seeing my story, then it was not in vain. 

So take a look at the words from my loving husband–that did, at the time, make me swoon.  Great things await me and my children in 2013 and I thank God for the opportunity to embrace them with wonder and gratitude.

Greetings! This is Claire’s husband. After watching my wife bare her financial soul and diligently post day after day, it is long overdue for me to introduce myself and comment. Especially since I am a beneficiary of the advice shared so freely both directly and indirectly. First of all, I just want to take a minute to let the blogosphere know how much I adore and respect this woman. She is truly in a league of her own. Her dad once said that he created the perfect woman and I am very thankful to him for this beautiful gift I have the privilege of calling my wife.

Secondly, thank you to the followers of the blog that offer such great advice. Your comments are the source of many meaningful discussions we have and weigh in the decisions we make. Your voice counts, a lot.

Now for the lease to own discussion. I realize this is beyond my expertise so your suggestions are well received. Before she and I get too involved in the decision, I should mention that we do not have confirmation that the terms of the mortgage would allow for any such arrangement. Once we have a better understanding of the flexibility, or not, we have with the mortgage contract we can then pursue the options with a professional in the field. Should we have a green light to move forward, one option that seems to hold the most promise for our circumstances is a wraparound mortgage. This is an attractive option because it is hard for buyers to qualify, we have relatively no equity in the property and the tenants (prospective buyers) have been reliable (knock on wood). Basically, the reasons why the housing market has been in a funk make it viable to owner finance. The calculators I find all indicate this is very doable. Downside is the housing market is a moving target so there is risk but possible reward. This exercise is very eye opening though. It quickly showed me how lucrative it can be to use higher end financial vehicles to build wealth. I can just hear her now and see her eyes roll at me as she wonders what crazy ideas I will come up with as a result. Laughing, thank you for your patience and understanding, Love.