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I lost my job then…

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I swear I could not make up my life. Seriously. I do believe someone should make a movie out of the crazy that is my life.

I believe I wrote previously that my contract job was ending. The job that I took in July when I left my dream job/team, that was supposed to become permanent ended officially on February 23rd. And I once again became jobless. At the same time every major tech company is doing massive layoffs.

200 resumes out of the door and radio silence.

More Death

Oh, then my grandmother dies. My beloved grandmother. My strongest supporter along with my uncle who died in November. It’s been a rough first quarter of 2023. She was born in 1927.

As terrible of a loss as it has been. It was also an answer to prayer, my grandmother did not want to outlive her daughter, my mom who has been on hospice care since last September.

Five women of different ages posing on a porch, one in a Best Grandma shirt
L to R: My daughter, my sister, me, my mom and my grandmother

Personal Change

To top even this off, all three of my boys are moving away in the next couple of months. The twins are moving back to Virginia in just a few short weeks and my baby boy is off to Texas this summer.

This mama is unraveled on every front. And truly struggling to come to grips with what life is supposed to look like next.

The Good News

The good news is that the trauma is beginning to recede and I am feeling the clouds clear from my head. My savings has been tiding us over thusfar. We are two months in. And while the end of my savings is in sight. It is not imminent. A very different situation than the last time I found myself unemployed for any period of time. (Any BAD readers been here that long?)

I have been blessed with a part time job with a local accountant. And I am LOVING it. It’s not much money but it’s something. (Grateful for my Sunday School class who facilitated this new job.) She gave me full time hours during tax season for a couple of weeks. And plans to keep me on part time.  Currently, I am working on some technology changes and integrations for her as well as digitizing and organizing all her client files.

I think my head is on straight enough to resume writing. I appreciate those who reached out and checked on me.

Insurance is a Scam!

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Patient in a hospital gown holding a blue disposable cap

The title of this post is a bit tongue-and-cheek. I want to start right off the bat by saying that we are fortunate to have pretty good health insurance (a PPO) and a healthy HSA to help pay our out-of-pocket medical costs. That has not always been the case.

Background as a  Broke College Student

I remember only having catastrophic coverage as a graduate student (no prescription coverage). There was one time I got sick and when I went to pick up the prescription my doctor had prescribed, it cost more than I can afford. At this point, I can’t recall details (e.g., don’t know the illness or prescription). What I’ll never forget, though, was standing in the lobby of Walgreens near-tears because I couldn’t afford the medicine to help me get better. I asked the pharmacist if I could fulfill a partial-prescription (the answer was “no.”). My pride wouldn’t let me call my mom to ask for help (which she certainly would have given). Instead, I left empty-handed.

Changes in Coverage

I’ve come a long way from that broke college kid. But how far, really? When I called recently to schedule an annual well-woman check with my OBGYN, I was informed that my OBGYN is no longer covered by my insurance. I would either have to 1) pay out of pocket for the cost of being seen AND the cost of the routine pap-smear test, lab results, etc. or 2) find a new OBGYN. What did I do? Option 3 – I have not scheduled an appointment. I know even typing this how reckless that is. But I LOVE my OBGYN. I don’t want another! But I also don’t want to pay out-of-pocket. So I’m stuck in limbo-land. Find a new provider? Or maybe wait until open enrollment and find a new insurance (but then what if my other doctors are no longer covered?). I’m so annoyed with the insurance company – and yes, I’ve written to let them know about my disappointment.

Pregnancy Coverage

It takes me back, again, to my broke grad student insurance days. Maybe I’m scarred from those experiences.

I had my twins when I was a graduate student on that crappy grad student insurance. When I first sought care, I was planning to do the all-natural route and, therefore, I was seeing a midwife group.  I was 20-weeks pregnant when I discovered – WOW! – I was actually pregnant with twins. I was thrust into the “high risk pregnancy” category and no longer qualified for the midwife group. I started seeing a doctor who had been recommended by my midwife. The problem is I HATED the doctor. So much. He made me cry almost every appointment. He was so harsh and impersonal and harped on all the risks and I was a first-time pregnant woman, living far from family and scared senseless. Why didn’t I switch providers? With my crappy insurance, I was only allowed to change providers once during the pregnancy. I had officially changed from the midwife group to the “mean” OBGYN and so I was stuck. I was not allowed to change again. The entire pregnancy from that point was really tough. And the birth experience was traumatic. I won’t go into details, but I fully hold resentment to the insurance company for “trapping” me in that situation.

Trapped again!?

I had a similar “trapped” experience recently. Or, rather, my husband did. Last weekend, my husband ended up in the ER for abdominal pain – we were worried it was gallstones, as he’s had an attack before. He was treated and released with a pain prescription and instructions to follow-up with his PCP. Unfortunately, a lot of our pharmacies have reduced hours over the past year or so. At this point, the nearest 24-hour pharmacy, a CVS, is a good 30+ minutes away (compared to our preferred pharmacy, Walgreens, which is maybe a 5 minute drive away). My husband was released in the middle of the night, so the ER doctor called his ‘script into the nearest 24-hour pharmacy, rather than our preferred pharmacy. We didn’t go to pick it up that night, as my husband just wanted to go home and sleep.

The next morning, I called to confirm that the prescription was ready for pick-up. To my surprise, I was told that the CVS pharmacy does not take our insurance and, therefore, had not filled the prescription. They recommended calling the hospital and having the prescription sent to our nearby Walgreens. I called the hospital, but because one of the prescriptions was for a narcotic, they could not transfer it to a different pharmacy and the prescribing doctor was no longer on-duty. I called CVS back again. “Looks like we’re going to have to pay out of pocket for the prescription, but can y’all transfer it to a CVS closer to our house so we don’t have to drive clear across town to pick it up?” Nope. Because one of the prescriptions is a narcotic, there are no transfers, even within another CVS store. We were stuck. At an out-of-network pharmacy, way across town.

So guess what. We drove all the way across town and paid out of pocket for the prescription.

What’s the point?

Here’s where I get into a bit of hyperbole because of course health insurance is important and had we paid out-of-pocket for all my husband’s scans and tests in the hospital, it would have been thousands (or tens of thousands????) of dollars. So I’m grateful for the coverage.

But if you’ll indulge my petulance for a minute…what the heck is the point in paying for insurance when they won’t cover our doctor of choice, our pharmacy of choice, our prescription medication, etc?

I know with 100% certainty I’ve used CVS in the past. When was it dropped from our insurance coverage? And in the case of my OBGYN, why would the insurance company not tell customers that they’re dropping the provider during open enrollment period when I’d actually have the opportunity to change my health plan?

It’s incredibly frustrating to pay big bucks to a health insurance company that feels like it’s just taking our money and cutting corners, refusing to cover care and prescriptions left and right! And so I return to the title of this post…..insurance is a scam! I said it.

I have been a loyal Blue Cross Blue Shield customer since I got my first full-time job in 2015. But this prescription fiasco on top of the OBGYN problem is the straw that broke the camel’s back. When open enrollment comes around, I’m officially going to look into other providers.

Anyone have a company you love that you’d recommend?

It’s such a bummer because I have a number of specialists (urologist, nephrologist), so if I make a change to my health insurance, I have to make sure my preferred doctors are still covered. I don’t need a referral with my current health insurance, and I want to make sure it stays that way. Do all U.S. companies just kind of suck now? Is that just what it is? Do I have to find a new OBGYN after finally finding someone I love? *cue whiny face* I hate to think others have dealt with these same struggles, but something tells me this is not an unusual situation in the current American health insurance climate.