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Starting my November Challenge Early

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Grocery shopping complete. I got some fresh produce and a few special items for Halloween night snacks. But with this shopping trip complete, the last one of the month, I’ve spent a total of $389 on groceries this month. And that’s without really scrimping. I’m just buying for less people and those people eat less and less often.

That leaves $111 extra in our food budget. Score!

I’m going to be working on my 2021 budget next month since lots of things have changed around here since I published my last one in July.

November Challenge

I may have already posted this intention, but frankly, haven’t been getting enough sleep to keep everything straight. But..my November challenge is going to be another no spend challenge. I am setting aside $30 per week for fresh produce as that is a key ingredient in much of our daily food. But other than that my goal is to spend $0 this month.

Oh, one other caveat, I’m going to have to pay for parking for our trip at Thanksgiving, so there will be that. But otherwise, the goal is to eat at home, entertain ourselves at home and work a lot before the holidays. Which is mostly driven by financial goals, but also by the fact that I committed to an extra 10 hours of works per week through the end of the year for a long term client.

I am stretching myself pretty thin, but decided to buckle down and just do it. (That week between Christmas and New Years, though…I’m taking off and reading a ton of just fun books! My birthday/Christmas/made it through 2020 gift to myself.)

Did you Get Your Christmas Shopping Done?

My October challenge was to complete my Christmas shopping and I’m excited to say I did just that. And on top of that, as I wrapped the twins’ birthday presents, I began (and almost finished) wrapping them. Score. I’ve already put the Texas bound gifts in my suitcase so they are ready to go in a couple of weeks.

Now to be honest, I have a couple more things I will get for Christmas presents for the kiddos…but it was too soon to buy them, ie candy and food related gifts. But it truly is minimal and I don’t have to worry about shipping those.

Goals for November

To summarize, my personal finance goals for November are threefold:

  • Create a new budget to begin in January, 2021.
  • Work my butt off to hit my end of 2020 goal of paying off my smaller student loan.
  • No extra spending this month with the exception of $30 per week for fresh produce and paying for parking while we are out of town for Thanksgiving.

 

Friends and Money

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I have a sweet friend whom I’ve know for a long time.  We have very similar backgrounds.  We both came from low income families.  We both hoped to break the mold and move up from the economic classes we grew up in.

I went to school and became the only one of my siblings to get a college degree.  I took on a ton of debt for my degree and a lot of other stupid things.  She went $200K in debt to get a doctorate.  The great part is, she actually graduated and she’s using her degree.  She makes good money and I’m super happy for her.

I thought things were good.  She drives a luxury car and lives in a beautiful new house.  She did exactly what she set out to do.  Sure, I don’t live in luxury but I did exactly what I hoped.  I graduated from low income to middle income.  I’d like to have lovely things but I like the balance I’ve created more than I want those things.

We had a girl’s night and sat on the couch picking out what to watch on TV when a political ad popped up.  She said, “I sure hope whoever wins the election clears my student loans.  I’m so tired of paying them.”  We graduated nearly 20 years ago and I assumed she paid them off.  “Those still hanging around your neck?” I asked.  “They grow every year.  We put those last on our list of bills and they just keep adding up” she said.

She’s a dear friend, a very close friend so naturally we had a two-hour heart to heart about her spending habits.  At the end, she cried, decided to sell her home and her car, and she’ll be debt free by the end of the year.

If you believe that’s what happened, I’ve got oceanfront property in Arizona to sell you.

Instead, I said, “Oh.  I’m sorry about that” and we moved on to find a show.  Money is such a tough topic with friends.  It sounds easy, just tell people what worked for us but I know she’d feel shamed if I told her, “If you’d sell that $70K depreciating asset parked in my driveway, you’d move the needle pretty quick.”  It’s a difficult conversation, even among close friends.  Here’s the deal, it’s a conversation I know I need to have.  She’s headed for a huge financial mess.  I take that back, she’s already IN a huge financial mess.  When I mentioned the student loan to my husband, he responded “I know.  Her husband is always stressed about money.  How did you not know this?!?”

Have you ever had difficult conversations about money with friends?  Would you have that conversation?  Any advice?