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As most of you know, the divorce can be final as of November 17.  Steve continues to refuse to communicate with me at all.  So stupid.  He needs to demonize me to continue his avoidance of responsibility. None of that concerns me and I cannot control his irrational thoughts. What I can and have controlled is a date certain for this to end.  I set the final hearing for December 19.  Due to a 45-day notice requirement, that was the earliest date.  It so happens that would have been our 3 year anniversary.  So, we wait.  We can still finalize prior to that final hearing date but that will require communication between him and either me or the attorney I’ve hired.

I am once again thankful that I’m a grown up.  Maybe my profession makes me someone who can disagree with others but still be cordial and communicative. Maybe because I was raised to communicate well makes me capable of bridging divides and moving forward.  Whatever it is I am thankful. To be incapable of finding resolution  is a miserable way of life and something I never want to experience.

On the money front, my crosshairs are focused at Bank of America.  Every extra penny, which isn’t much right now, is going toward that stupid credit card.  I’ve made payments as little as $10 just to keep up my momentum.

Oh!  And I fired AT&T and disconnected my home phone.  I only had it bc DS doesn’t have a cell as he isn’t quite ready to keep up with one so on the rare occasion that he’s home alone, he needed a landline.  Well, I didn’t care much about that when in the moment of rage with stupid AT&T!  Long story short, they kept Steve’s email on my entirely new account. When I called to ask them to correct their error I was told that for security reasons they could not.  Done.  Disconnect my phone. I haven’t been that pissed off in a long while. It’s those small moments with irritating issues like this that get me riled up.  Now AT&T will wait for me to pay my $30 balance. Perhaps at $1.00 per month. I’m kidding…sort of.  I also got a new cell through Verizon. I was still on Steve’s employee plan but all ties need to be cut.  My bill will increase by $40 but soooo worth it.



  • Reply Chris |


    Stay strong. Good for you, when it comes to AT&T!

    As for the money, sometimes I find if I wait until I have enough money to throw a snowball at debt, it has melted do to life getting in the way of living 🙁 So, I have caused many snowflakes to scattered throughout the month. Gotta do what works for you!

  • Reply Nadia |

    Ha, I am not at all surprised by the problem with AT&T. Good job on working on the BofA CC. Every little bit counts. Keep it up!

  • Reply Susan Melvin |

    Isn’t it interesting that you are also aiming at Bank of America? Beks was also riled up with them, and we have a credit card with them that I have been working to pay off … grrr. B of A seems to be the bank people love to hate.

  • Reply Sarah |

    Thanks for the update. At the end of the month, could you identify which credit card is which (bank name) and what interest rates apply to the ones that are left?

  • Reply Sarah |

    Our local B of A recently installed a thick plastic wall between the tellers and the customers. It is so unnerving when you walk in the door. The first time I walked in just to get some change, I stopped and stepped back for a few seconds. Yikes.

  • Reply Karen |

    I am currently going through a divorce and it’s been a bit of a nightmare. I so feel for you. I didn’t speak to my husband for four months.

    I have struggled for 7 months to keep things together and in the end I will have to file bankruptcy. I have worked so hard to get our debt paid down only for my husband to rack it back up. I am going to lose my condo and my car.

    Keep up the good work here!

  • Reply Jessica |

    You can get a cell line for about $15/month through Verizon and just make that the home line. We did that for the longest until my son was responsible enough for one.

  • Reply jaye |

    I know this is old school but…. I think it’s important to have a home phone. We have one through Verizon that is $25/month. I can call anywhere in the US and Canada with no extra charges. The main thing for me is that I have a phone next to my bed that is a regular plug in phone. No need for electricity. It can’t get misplaced like a cell or cordless. If there’s a break in or a fire, it could be the difference between life and death.

    When we lost power for a week last year, we were one of a few local families that had phone access.

    By the way, if we wanted a hardlined phone that would make only local calls for free (would accrue charges on anything that requires a 1-), it would’ve been $9.00 a month. I just thought that the extra $16 was worth it for “free” calls.

    Okay, enough said. I know many will probably think I’m a luddite, but I’m mostly just risk-adverse.

  • Reply Jean |

    When I got divorced, I let my soon-to-be-ex have most of our household furnishings. I didn’t have any living room or dining room furniture for awhile, but I wanted a clean start. I think it was a mental thing for me. Hang in there – it will soon be all behind you. Getting divorced will take a huge weight off your shoulders. Got a call from a collection agency looking for my ex, and I know from county records that he’s behind on his property taxes. SO glad that my name isn’t legally tied to his any more!

  • Reply Liran |

    Stay strong, going through a divorce is challenging, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It does get better.

  • Reply Rochelle |

    Good for you for getting rid of A T & T, I finally got the courage to do the same thing about 2 months ago. I ended up getting the straight talk phone from Walmart for $45 per month with everything included with no contract I love it Best thing I have ever done besides becoming debt free!!!!!

So, what do you think ?