As most of you know, the divorce can be final as of November 17. Steve continues to refuse to communicate with me at all. So stupid. He needs to demonize me to continue his avoidance of responsibility. None of that concerns me and I cannot control his irrational thoughts. What I can and have controlled is a date certain for this to end. I set the final hearing for December 19. Due to a 45-day notice requirement, that was the earliest date. It so happens that would have been our 3 year anniversary. So, we wait. We can still finalize prior to that final hearing date but that will require communication between him and either me or the attorney I’ve hired.
I am once again thankful that I’m a grown up. Maybe my profession makes me someone who can disagree with others but still be cordial and communicative. Maybe because I was raised to communicate well makes me capable of bridging divides and moving forward. Whatever it is I am thankful. To be incapable of finding resolution is a miserable way of life and something I never want to experience.
On the money front, my crosshairs are focused at Bank of America. Every extra penny, which isn’t much right now, is going toward that stupid credit card. I’ve made payments as little as $10 just to keep up my momentum.
Oh! And I fired AT&T and disconnected my home phone. I only had it bc DS doesn’t have a cell as he isn’t quite ready to keep up with one so on the rare occasion that he’s home alone, he needed a landline. Well, I didn’t care much about that when in the moment of rage with stupid AT&T! Long story short, they kept Steve’s email on my entirely new account. When I called to ask them to correct their error I was told that for security reasons they could not. Done. Disconnect my phone. I haven’t been that pissed off in a long while. It’s those small moments with irritating issues like this that get me riled up. Now AT&T will wait for me to pay my $30 balance. Perhaps at $1.00 per month. I’m kidding…sort of. I also got a new cell through Verizon. I was still on Steve’s employee plan but all ties need to be cut. My bill will increase by $40 but soooo worth it.