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As most of you know, the divorce can be final as of November 17.  Steve continues to refuse to communicate with me at all.  So stupid.  He needs to demonize me to continue his avoidance of responsibility. None of that concerns me and I cannot control his irrational thoughts. What I can and have controlled is a date certain for this to end.  I set the final hearing for December 19.  Due to a 45-day notice requirement, that was the earliest date.  It so happens that would have been our 3 year anniversary.  So, we wait.  We can still finalize prior to that final hearing date but that will require communication between him and either me or the attorney I’ve hired.

I am once again thankful that I’m a grown up.  Maybe my profession makes me someone who can disagree with others but still be cordial and communicative. Maybe because I was raised to communicate well makes me capable of bridging divides and moving forward.  Whatever it is I am thankful. To be incapable of finding resolution  is a miserable way of life and something I never want to experience.

On the money front, my crosshairs are focused at Bank of America.  Every extra penny, which isn’t much right now, is going toward that stupid credit card.  I’ve made payments as little as $10 just to keep up my momentum.

Oh!  And I fired AT&T and disconnected my home phone.  I only had it bc DS doesn’t have a cell as he isn’t quite ready to keep up with one so on the rare occasion that he’s home alone, he needed a landline.  Well, I didn’t care much about that when in the moment of rage with stupid AT&T!  Long story short, they kept Steve’s email on my entirely new account. When I called to ask them to correct their error I was told that for security reasons they could not.  Done.  Disconnect my phone. I haven’t been that pissed off in a long while. It’s those small moments with irritating issues like this that get me riled up.  Now AT&T will wait for me to pay my $30 balance. Perhaps at $1.00 per month. I’m kidding…sort of.  I also got a new cell through Verizon. I was still on Steve’s employee plan but all ties need to be cut.  My bill will increase by $40 but soooo worth it.


Water Company’s “Change” Fee


I called the water company to change the account from Steve’s name to my name.  The customer service rep was so pleasant and it was all going smoothly until she tells me that there will be a $72 charge for a name change on the account.  I’m sure there are a whole host of reasons the water company people could come up with about the why behind that fee but, I’m sorry, I just wouldn’t accept the charge.  It’s dumb.  I spent entirely too much time and energy being passed from rep to rep and this is what they assume people won’t do—take the time to object.  I almost joined the masses and threw in the towel but I stuck with it until they acquiesced.  Give me a break.  I have a prior, recent excellent record with this water company that they can readily access so it isn’t as though I’m paying for any sort of risk I might be to them.  I think this was just one of those days that having to screw around with all of this stupid sh*t set me off.  I guess it was bound to happen and better with a complete stranger than taking it out on loved ones.  🙂

To address a couple of comments–yes, a divorce in Texas can happen pretty darn fast!  It just has to be on file for 60 days.  We don’t have “legal separations” here so this time period that we are currently in would be our version of a legal separation.  I also chuckled with the comment someone made about not having to pay a lawyer–yes, that is a HUGE benefit!  He filed the lawsuit pro se (acting as his own attorney) but I am glad that I simply know the ins and outs of the litigation process in this county.  Knowledge is power and knowing who to call, what to do and how to do it certainly reduces my stress level.

Now if only the $*!&^% water company hadn’t gotten in my way today, I think I would’ve continued on with my smooth sailing!  😉