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Another big unexpected expense

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July has turned out to be quite an expensive month for us!

First, my husband had an emergency root canal. Then my tooth chipped (I still need to go have an exam to see if it will require repair, but I think I’m going to try to wait until August since July has already been so expensive!).

Then on Friday last week I took our Explorer to have an oil change. The light had been on for almost a week (since our Utah trip) and, although the husband generally does oil changes himself, I found a coupon online for $21.99 (by comparison, we usually spend about $20 for the stuff needed for husband to do it himself, so this was a great deal).

Well, of course I can’t get off with only a $21.99 charge. That would be way too easy. Instead, the mechanic comes in to talk to me in the lobby and explains that our car is currently at 59,500 miles. He recommends a whole slew of regular maintenance items that are recommended by Ford at 60,000 miles. To the tune of nearly $900.

My heart rate goes up and I swear my hands start perspiring. That is a LOT of money.

Many years ago, my husband used to work as a salesperson in an auto shop. Even though he didn’t do the mechanical work, he knows a good bit about cars. I call him up and let him speak directly to the mechanic. After their conversation I talk to my husband. He is a big proponent of taking good care of one’s car. Although most of the services aren’t immediate needs, he thinks everything should eventually be done. This kind of routine maintenance is what helps a car to last to 200,000+ miles (which is our hope – to drive this car to the ground!!!)

One other relevant tidbit I left out – the mechanic is a freemason. So is my husband. This may not mean anything to most of you, but freemasons are a very tight-knit group. They always deal fairly with each other. They would never ever rip each other off. Because of this, we had an extra layer of peace-of-mind that the mechanic wasn’t just trying to screw us over to make a commission on the work.

So I asked the mechanic to rank-order what needed to be done and to get started on the first several items. I wanted to spread the work out over a few months and there are a few things that my husband is going to do himself so we didn’t do everything that was recommended.

I waited anxiously, nervous of what the final bill would be.

When I finally went to pay, the mechanic, himself, came to the front to discount some of the labor charges (he took off about 20% total!). Our final bill came to $509. This does not include changing spark plugs and wires (which was estimated at about $200 and will be done probably in September or October since I want to wait a bit), nor does it include the air filter (which hubs can do himself for really cheap).

Out of our monthly car savings (a sub-account in my CapitalOne360 account), I had $260. The remaining of the bill was paid out of pocket. So, the remaining $249 remaining balance ($509-$260 = $249) is going to have to come from the “other” category of our budget (side note:  I’m also including husband’s root canal in this category of our budget. Initially I’d said I was going to simply subtract it from our income – never including it in our budget at all – but Scooze pointed out how that doesn’t give us an accurate picture of our finances, which is important for projecting future expenses, etc.). Sooooo, we’re going to be really REALLY over-budget in our “other” category this month. Just a heads up.

This whole car maintenance thing also makes me worried about my husband’s work truck. You may remember me talking about how old and beat up it is. We were estimating that it would probably have to be replaced this winter (*gulp*). I’m at a loss for what to do. Start funneling more money into our car monthly savings (we’ve been saving $50/month previously)? Just stay the course and hope the truck continues to hold out?

The reason we thought we’d have to replace it in winter is that the past 2 winters it has given us problems with starting when it gets cold outside (making it unreliable in cold weather). It’s A/C has also been out for an entire year now (meaning, husband has been driving around in 110+ degree days with no A/C all summer). The estimated cost to fix the A/C is another $1,000 and husband replaced all the parts associated with the starter last year and still had problems, so no idea what that will cost. Right now no money has been going into it at all, aside from regular oil changes and gasoline (didn’t want to invest money into it when we thought we’d be replacing it soon).

Other pertinent information – Kelley Blue Book estimates its value at $3700 (not too shabby since we paid only $3,000 about four years ago). This could be “off” though, given the problems its having (no A/C in Tucson is kind of a deal-beaker for most buyers).

Why oh why is vehicle maintenance so expensive? And why oh why is everything breaking/falling apart at the same time? Is this a case of “you’ve done too well…now Murphey is coming to visit!!!!”????

Tips, suggestions, advice? What would you do?

Shameless Networking

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I have never been good at networking. I don’t know why because I’m friendly and personable. I think I feel like networking is akin to pushing myself on someone – which its not at all! I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s some sex difference with this and women are worse than men (since there are lots of studies – and a whole book, if you’ve read Lean In – about how women are generally more deferential in a workplace than men).

Anyway, my wheels have been turning ever since this post, where several of you commented that I should be keeping in regular contact with my contract positions regardless (not just when there hasn’t been work for awhile). Around the same time I read a blog post from one of my favorite “healthy living” bloggers (If you’re into that genre – check out Caitlin’s blog!). She has made a career out of writing (3 published books, multiple freelance articles, etc.), and gave some tips about her freelance career. To be clear, I am not a freelance writer, but having several contract based positions feels similar to me in some aspects, so I got some gold nuggets of wisdom from her post.

One thing Caitlin said is that most of her jobs come from connections and referrals.

Me, too!!! (both my current jobs are from connections)

Another thing Caitlin said that resonated with me was that she tries to keep in contact with more than one person per place. That’s because someone can always leave so if your connection moves to another company, then you’ve lost your “in.”

I’ve been thinking about these things and have generally started trying to be better at keeping in touch with people from my current jobs. I think that I have a personality that I feel like when I send emails I want to be direct and brief. I feel like people are busy and want to get on with their day so I don’t want to inject a bunch of “how ya doing?” and “hows the family?” into my emails. But the fact of the matter is, I think it helps to have somewhat of a personal connection. Don’t get me wrong – I didn’t dive right in with “So, tell me about yourself! Single? Married? How many kids?” But I’ve been sprinkling in personal pieces of information about myself and have seen an increased divulgence on my contacts’ parts, also. Instead of strictly business, I now know that my main contact from University B has a daughter who goes to camp right on the university site (very convenient for the parent). I have also made additional contacts from University A aside from my one primary contact who got me the position.

Then things just started snowballing and I’ve engaged in increasing amounts of shameless networking.

I reached out to a contact from my alma mater and volunteered myself, should they ever need an online instructor there. Why have I never done this before? These are people I know well (I spent 4 years there). Why have I never thought to even reach out and offer myself? It was so easy (no job from it yet, but its easy networking!)

I also recently applied for a “traditional” academic position. In researching the faculty in the department, I discovered that one faculty member was in grad school at the same place/same time as a faculty member from my alma mater. This isn’t someone I worked directly with, but we know each other well so I reached out to the faculty and asked her to make a contact for me (basically “introduce us”), and put in a good word. Turns out this person isn’t on the hiring committee, but it still never hurts. We’ve now emailed back and forth a bit and she actually told me a good bit about the interviewing process, so if I make it that far I’ll certainly feel more prepared.

And, finally, I recently saw a position posted for another online part-time position. This one is for an editor of an academic journal (not the Editor-in-Chief, this would be a supporting editor position). The journal’s content is right in my area of expertise and I’ve even met the Editor-in-Chief a handful of times at various conferences and such. Instead of simply submitting an application, I sent Editor-in-Chief a personal email along the lines of, “you probably don’t remember me, but I’ve worked with A and B, and we’ve met a couple times at Y and Z, and blah blah blah.” I asked a question about the position but the real purpose of the email (to me), was to make that personal connection and get him to remember my name.

Now, none of these things have come to fruition yet. So this isn’t a success story like, “Look at me! I networked and landed this big job!” Instead, it’s more of an “I’m learning, and I have the faith that this will eventually pay off in one avenue or another.”

Also, after I got over the initial fear-factor, its way easier than I had imagined. So if anyone else was like me and afraid of networking because you felt like you were pushing yourself on someone – don’t feel that way! After you do it a couple times, it actually becomes easy and now it just feels routine!

But I’m certainly no expert, so I can still use your tips!

What are other ways that you network? I like the connection aspect (having a connection introduce us, or mentioning a common contact). What if it’s a “cold call” so to speak. For instance, I have a job I really want to apply for in a department where I know no one and have no connections. How do you get your foot in the door? Just start emailing people with similar research interests??? (you can do research online to find peoples’ research interests). Is there a “proper” way for this to be done so it doesn’t come across as pushy? Would you target multiple people or only one person initially?

So.much.to.learn!