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Am I have a Mid-Life Crisis?


According to this Women’s Day article, there are 13 signs that a woman may be experiencing a mid-life crisis. While I think only about half of them apply to me, I truly do think I am experiencing a mid-life crisis. And I have no idea what the end result will be!

What Led to My Mid-Life Crisis?

These last 5 years have been really hard for me. Like never letting up hard. Here’s a quick timeline of what comes to mind:

  • Aug, 2013 – lost first large client and second highest playing client. Looked at it as a blessing in disguise at the time as I was about to finalize the twins adoption and felt it would free up some time I needed to spend with them.
  • Aug, 2014 – confrontation with my dad about our housing and subsequent move to 900 square foot apartment.
  • Oct, 2015 – lost substantial client, the backbone of my business. Failed to recover by re-growing business or getting corporate job.
  • Apr, 2016 – move from apartment to camper after continued failure to re-coup earning power.
  • Dec, 2016 – loss of camper housing and unexpected and bumpy move to GA. Major upheaval for the kids, leaving History Buff in VA.
  • Nov, 2017 – threat of new job loss by crummy employer.
  • Feb, 2018 – job loss and fight to gain unemployment benefits (still fighting for that.)

And here we are! I’m SO tired of job searching. I do not understand why it is so hard. They say apply online, my credentials match, my resume is awesome (thanks, Faye!) but nothing happens.

Thus, my mid-life crisis mindset.

What To Do

I have to figure out something. My savings will not last forever. Unemployment is still up in the air.

This past week, I applied for a part time position at the local Home Depot, actually several positions. I knew it wouldn’t pay much, but it would be something. And something is better than nothing, right? I had my interview yesterday (Monday.)

Hopefully, I’ll hear something by the end of the week or early next week.  I would make $10 per hour and be scheduled anywhere between 10-28 hours per week.  Best of all, they will work around the kids’ activity schedule.

I am actually really excited about the possibility.  It will be great to get out of the house, make some money, meet some locals and I hear nothing but good things about working for Home Depot.

Other Work

I am going to relaunch my EPOH.com website in the next week or so and focus on gaining some local business.  I’m debating joining the local Chamber of Commerce for networking purposes as well as placing an ad in the local paper.  It’s just a really small market.  But I’m hopeful a couple of people might could use me.

I am really glad to live in a place where the cost of living is really low. With just a few stable clients, I can pay for the basic necessities. I would love some feedback. Has anyone else just completely wanted to throw in the towel and do something completely different, ie computer nerd to garden center sales associate?

Life has Come to a Screeching Halt


In addition to disputing my unemployment benefits claim, my most recent W2 job also failed to pay my last invoice, reimburse me for sub-contractor services AND I had to make several calls before I was paid for the PTO I had accrued.

On top of that, I called to move my 401K and was told as part of the plan a third party contracted by my W2 job had to review and approve the move and then the W2 job had to approve it before any action could be taken.  Neither the 3rd party or my W2 job has done anything about it, it’s been 8 days since I made the official request.

Now I know where that saying comes from “I’m so angry I could spit!” I made a final attempt yesterday to move all of this along with a call and follow up emails to their accountant/payroll person. I don’t know what good it will do but I tried.

In addition, the Department of Labor for the state of Georgia called to take my rebuttal statement on their denial of my benefits.  Evidently, the burden of proof is on my W2 job to prove what they say “she didn’t do her work” and they have thru today to prove their case.  I am confident in my stance and have copies of all the work files, etc. but I am just flabbergasted at being treated like this.

Moving Forward

I am moving forward on applying for jobs, have had several interviews and am working on a new website for my consultant business. But for the most part, life is at a standstill.  If I don’t receive the pay owed or begin receiving UI benefits, I will have to dip into my savings at the end of this week.  I’m so grateful for it, but I’m just mad!

In all my years of working with different companies I have never been treated like this. I have never had to argue with a payroll person that they didn’t pay me. She even said with me leaving, I gave up all my PTO…umm, not!  I’ve just never dealt with such an unethical company, and I do not know that I have any recourse. (Another girl who had been there for 7 years was let go a couple of weeks before me, and they made false statements about her UI benefits as well, so she has yet to receive them either.)

Groceries and Weight

We are pretty much in a no spend month which has not been too bad. We stocked the freezer with food in January so we have plenty of meat and so on.  Today I bought a large salad mix for $3.66, a carton of sliced mushrooms $1.28 and 2 avocados – $0.98 each. Not to bad for weekly groceries.

Probably the best thing out of all this is that I’m down 15 pounds without trying.  Side effect of the stress, I suppose.