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A Tiny Little Splurge – Worth More than its Weight in Gold

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I have a confession to make, and to be honest, this is something I did months ago.  Like maybe three months ago.  But I just got the results, so at this point the money was long gone.  But…let me explain why first.

Months ago, I was sitting at dinner with History Buff, Princess and Gymnast.  And like all 10 years olds do, Gymnast went off on this tangent about tattoos, how he wanted one, would I let him get one, and so on.  Then History Buff brought up the tattoos he might get one day, mostly based on what his birth father has.  And then he starts this story about how his biological mom has his younger sister and brother’s names tattooed on her, but not his and Sea Cadets.  And as much as he will say he is over the hurt that has been caused by events with her, I could see the pain just this little thing caused him.

And I immediately thought of my Mother’s Ring.  (I don’t have tattoos and am too scared of needles to ever want one.)  My ex-husband got it for me some years ago and it had my younger two children’s birthstones on it.  They are tiny, but it has replaced my wedding ring over the last few years and I never took it off.

And then I realized that History Buff and his twin has been my sons for over two years now…and they weren’t on my ring.  Something I cherish because of what it symbolizes.

Okay, you can probably guess where the story goes.  Princess and I were out one day and I had some time to kill so I ran into a local jeweler to find out how much it would be to add the twins to my ring.  It was $85.  I thought it would be hundreds and completely out of reach.  Well, I left it that day and they’ve let me make payments over the last months, and this week I picked it up.

I am THRILLED!  Now I have all my children on my Mother’s Ring and I will cherish it forever!  Happy Mother’s Day to Me!

My updated Mother's Ring!

My updated Mother’s Ring!


10 Comments

  • Reply Vesta |

    Beautiful! And I am willing to bet all 4 of your children are thrilled! I have both my mother’s and grandmother’s “mother’s” rings and am debating the best way to wear them.

  • Reply CanadianKate |

    We had opted for very inexpensive rings when I got married (even back then I was extremely frugal and couldn’t understand going into debt to start our married life.)

    Fast forward 26 years and the band wore out twice with the second repair was needed just a few years after the first (plus my promise ring had been repaired twice in that time.) It was obvious that I needed a new ring but even now I can’t spent $$$$ on jewelry (most of favourite long-time pieces are Avon.) I love jewelry and wear it daily but none of it is ‘good.’

    The jeweler let me wear many styles of rings and we spent hours deciding what to do. Finally, he rebuilt my rings. We added a third band to go on the other side of the diamond ring and fused it all together so it looks like 3 bands. We added diamond and sapphire chips to the sides of my small diamond to make it look a little bit more substantial. The jeweler had me bring in all the gold jewelry I didn’t want, melted it and added it to the gold he used in the ring. So the total cost was $585 (2/3 what the rings cost originally.)

    Like you, I love the symbolism. To me the three bands represent my past, present and future. The gold in the ring comes from my birth stone ring my parents gave me, my grandmother’s wedding band, and my original wedding rings. I couldn’t be happier with my extremely modest ring.

    Happy Mother’s Day!

  • Reply Jenny Z |

    I definitely think it was worth it. Not only for you, but for the twins too. It’s important to feel like you belong to a family 🙂 I bet it means the world to them!

  • Reply Kili |

    If every kid had a parent like you the world would be a way better place 🙂

    • Reply revdrmd |

      Kili, I totally agree with you. If all kids had a parent like Hope the world would be a better place. Hope, thanks for sharing this post! It was worth the expense for you and for your children.

  • Reply Anonymous |

    Hope please go back and answer/address comments that have been left. It’s very annoying that readers take time to leave comments and you don’t respond

  • Reply Judi |

    I saw this post from Sheryl Sandburg on single mothers and the challenges they face and thought of you! What a beatific ring I’m glad it the twins have found a mother like you! Happy Mother’s Day!

    https://m.facebook.com/sheryl/posts/10156819553860177

  • Reply Denise |

    If ever a splurge was justified, I’d say this was the time. Older adoptiees face so much heartache, confusion, sadness, and uncertainty in life, that doing something to make your sons feel like part of the family was indeed worth its weight in gold. I also like that you made payments, as opposed to doing what so many do and making the purchase on a credit card. While this purchase may not have fulfilled a physical need for your family, I would say it did fulfill and emotional need.

So, what do you think ?