by Beks
My husband has been in school since we married… well, even before we married… and we will have been married 7 years this fall. It’s only been a few weeks since he graduated and I’m really enjoying having him around. It still feels a bit weird to have him home every night and not in school, studying, or working on a project.
He was considering going back to school this fall to get a few more certificates and licenses that would allow him to take on larger side projects, and in turn, make us more money. While beach camping, lulled by the relaxing waves, we talked about his desire to continue on with his education. I admire him for always looking out for us as a family and keeping our finances afloat but I asked for a small break. Yes, I understand that my decision to request a delay in pursuing a specific license will have an immediate impact on our finances but, we’ve been hanging on without it for this long, we can hang on a few more months.
He’s going back…just not right now.
Best decision for our finances? Not a chance.
Best decision for our family? I think so.
Beks is a full-time government employee who enjoys blogging late into the night after her four kids have gone to sleep. She’s been married to Chris, her college sweetheart, for 15 years. In 2017, after 3 long years working the Dave Ramsey Baby Steps, they paid off more than $70K and became debt free. When she’s not working or blogging, she’s exploring the great outdoors.
there are some things more important than money, and you realize this.
has your husband been working as well as going to school or have you been the sole provider all this time?
When our first son was born in 1995, my husband was in the middle of getting his master’s. He graduated in June 96. I spent many evenings home alone with our baby and even spent my 30th birthday alone as he had a final that night. September 95 to June 96 was a really long year…we both worked full-time, he was in school two nights a week and then was doing homework the rest of the time. It was a really difficult time. You will never have this time back with your baby. I think you made a good decision.
You gotta do what is best for you.
I thought the last comments on the subject were kind of harsh (or one-sided?), but I never got around to replying. I think there is something to be said for being busy and getting this stuff done while baby is a baby, versus when they will notice daddy is gone. (Plus he is still in school mode, etc.) I’d probably lean the other way, but that’s just me, apparently!
Good for you and for him. 🙂