I think it’s better if I just don’t know other people’s financial circumstances. It’s inevitable that no matter how hard I try not to, I end up scrutinizing their spending, no matter how much they make. I don’t want to judge anyone for how much they make or how they choose to spend it, and it’s easier to not judge if I just don’t know anything.
So I admit I don’t want to know anything about other people’s money, but here I am telling everyone about OUR money. It is just as awkward writing a blog about our finances as it is talking to loved ones about our finances, and a few times in the last month or so I’ve wondered if what we’re doing is CRAZY. Why would we ever admit to ANYONE that we’re over $100,000 in debt? We’re nuts! Right?
Right. At the same time, though, because of the blog, I had a few great conversations this week with my family and friends about our finances. I sent the radio recording to my immediate family and a handful of friends, and some of them listened and some started reading the blog. When I saw my grandma this week, she told me she had listened to the show and she was surprised to find out how much we were in debt. Then she laughed at us! Can I just say how refreshing that was? We’re doing everything we can to pay off this huge amount, and it was awesome to laugh at how pitiful our situation is, knowing we didn’t have to try to pretend to be okay or try to impress anyone. Much needed laughter and a load off my back! When she was done laughing, she told me how PROUD she was of us for paying off as much as we have so far. Hearing her say that meant the world to me.
I know this conversation, or any of the other conversations would not have happened had we not been able to be vulnerable enough to share our finances. I’ve never talked about it with anyone until we started blogging. What a blessing it has been to be encouraged by people who love us and are trying to understand our situation and encourage us! I kept all this to myself for three years, thinking it would be rude to talk about our debt or it would burden our family/ friends with our troubles, and it’s a relief to finally be able to talk about it and get advice and encouragement.
Do you have people you talk to about your budget and your debt? Do you share your numbers?
