by Hope
Well, almost…our house sold today. It’s officially over. As a result of the finishing touches I had to complete this week, it’s been extremely emotional for me, lots of crying. The new owners even moved in early, paying a per diem rate to take possession last Friday rather than waiting for today’s closing.
My parents will come for a week long visit in one week, and my dad said that he will tell me at that time what, if anything I will receive from the sale. I’m not going to rehash this, I’m not holding out any hope, what I am going to do is do my best to forgive and forget this house debacle even happened. Time heals all wounds, but I have a week to get my game face on and soften my heart. The wounds are fresh and the reality of our home being gone, well it’s really sad to me.
I just wanted you to know that this chapter of my life is closed…well, except for the remaining utility bills I must pay.
Hope is a resourceful, solutions-driven online business manager with over two decades of experience helping clients streamline operations, manage projects, and grow their businesses through digital marketing and technology.
But life has a way of rewriting your plans.
A year ago, Hope made the decision to move in with her aging parents full time – a season she wouldn’t trade, even as it came with its own financial and emotional weight. Earlier this year, she lost her mother, and is now walking the tender, disorienting path of grief while learning what “forward” looks like from here.
Hope came to the Blogging Away Debt community in 2015 as a single mom raising five foster and adoptive children. She’s written through job changes, financial setbacks, and the bittersweet transition to an empty nest. Her kids are finding their footing in the world now – and so is she.
Rooted in faith and fueled by the same perseverance she’s brought to every hard season, Hope is ready to face her finances with fresh eyes and an honest pen. She believes that clarity, courage, and community can change the trajectory of anyone’s story including her own.
She lives in Austin, TX with her dad, loves adventures with her dog Addie, and is figuring out, one step at a time, what this next chapter is meant to be.
Sending you love and hugs. Someday you will look back and understand the why. Until then, lick your wounds and remember this too will get better.
Heather
Can I just say that I am confused? I don’t see what you need to forgive. From what I understand, YOU broke the contract with your dad, not the other way around. He then chose to sell his belonging. Am I missing something?
I got the impression her dad was being a bit controlling. But this could be me projecting. You are reducing it to a clean, emotionless business transaction, which it doesn’t sound like it actually was. If it were, it probably would have gone much better. Seems unfair to say, oh it was just this simple thing when it really wasn’t.
I agree 100% with you Amy.
I agree with Amy. Hope, you have been elusive about this housing topic, and that is your right to do so. However, we as readers are really only getting your side of this story, so I feel it is best to refrain from commenting about this unless you want to share all the details (ie. your father’s side of the story.) It’s not really fair to us as readers or to your father either.
Awww… the feels. I think time will help, and making new memories.
Hope,
I am so glad your house has sold. I think it is a good idea that you are treating yourself to Thanksgiving at Golden Corral. Take some time over the holiday to rest and take care of yourself so all your emotional reserves are replenished before you have the talk with your Dad. In time your heart will heal.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Thanks for the idea of Golden Corral for dinner; we needed a place to eat (but chose Country Buffet instead – my husband just now called!) since I’m not well enough to cook.
Hope, I wish you and the kids have a wonderful Thanksgiving day and my fingers are crossed that you are able to make some money from the home sale after all expenses.
Hi Hope – you have been missed. I am glad you were able to take a mental break for a day and that you have given yourself permission to let someone else handle the load on Thanksgiving! You have had a lot going on so please don’t be too hard on yourself. After Thanksgiving, your parents visit, etc., you will hopefully feel re-energized and ready to tackle the world (and your debt) again. Closing a chapter can be hard, but it opens up the door for a whole new perspective. Once your visit with your parents is over and the “elephant in the room” has been banished, you will know what your new “starting point” will be. Hang on…but for this week and next, continue to heal and enjoy your family and all the blessings you have. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!!!