This is a multi-part series today. Your best bet is to start at the beginning here before you read the rest. This is the 4th part of my saga for today, and hopefully I will have a 5th part before the day is over, but it’s content is still unknown and thus we will both be waiting to see what happens.
As I pulled out of my parents driveway at 5:45am with 24 hours of driving and 4 overnights with friends on the way home, my brain was racing. I had six weeks to not only continue my regular job, work my part time job, start the kids homeschool year and begin the new fall school schedule of activities as a single parent, I must now find a new place to live, purge even more of our belongings, pack our belongings and get us moved. And that didn’t take into consideration the additional monies I would need to move and get into a new place. Can you feel my overwhelmedness? (Is that a word?)
So I drove and I turned things over in my brain…for hours on end as I faced the open road and the kids slept on.
And once we came to a stopping point, I began an urgent search for housing…housing that was affordable. Housing that would accommodate 5 people. Housing that would accommodate 3 dogs and 1 cat. Screech….did your mind come to a screeching halt with that last one? It should have. I don’t know how long it’s been since you rented but finding a place that will take 1 animal is hard, finding one that will take 4. Well…you’re probably able to calculate my odds now.
I didn’t sleep. I tossed and turned. I cried (quietly so the kids wouldn’t hear.) I felt like such a failure. How could I have made such bad financial decisions that we ended up in this mess. And it’s just me. Just me.
By the wee hours of the next morning, I was desolate and desperate. I emailed my dad and asked him to reconsider, asking him to at least give us through Christmas, telling him of all my obligations.
The silence over the next few days from that email was deafening. But the kids and I continued along our trek home and every free moment that I wasn’t driving or trying to keep a brave face and be present for my kids and friends or falling into fitful cat naps I searched for somewhere to go.
I had such great support from my friends during this time. They expressed the appropriate amount of anger on my behalf while being respectful that this was my dad and it was not meant to harm me. And then they got behind me and starting searching with me. Offering housing if needed, money if needed and just a ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on.
We arrived home 4 nights later and that email had still not been replied too. I was cautiously optimistic. I had finally broken down to call him expressing that I felt like I had a ticking time bomb hanging over my head and every second counted. He said he would talk to me when we were settled at home again. I called him as soon as we had unloaded the car. He was on his way out.
Several hours later, he called me back and gave a lengthy explanation and then final answer of No, he would not reconsider. I was devastated and felt cursed.
And with that, I gave myself a few minutes to cry and then I arose to tell the kids. So Sunday night about 11pm our world got turned upside down as I told the kids that we have 6 weeks to find a place to go.
There were tears, there was stoicism and there were questions. And with all that being said and done I made two promises to the kids that I would do everything in my power to keep us all together…people, dogs and cat and that we would finish this school year here with all their activities and friends and plans.
My daughter ended the discussions of the night looking around and saying “It feels like we are on TV. You know like now that we have heard this curse, someone is going to jump out and tell us that we are going to be on Extreme Home Makeover or something.” Oh, how I wish that was true, but even moreso I’m grateful that if I have to go through this really hard process I have the most wonderful children to go through it with. I know that what feels like a curse right now could truly turn into a blessing, so stay tuned to see what has happened since Sunday night with this time clock ticking.
The sorrow and joys of this roller-coaster overwhelm her at times, but she is committed to this course.
Hope plans to dig out of debt using any resource possible including her small business EPOH, her blog and any other resource that comes to mind!