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Without a Car

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The biggest question on my debt update was around the car loan for Gymnast. I am going to give some of that back story and my reasoning. I realize that the BAD community does not agree with my spending on my kids for the most part. And in hindsight, I have definitely prioritized spending on them too much in some areas. But this is where personal finance is just that personal. And as hard as this loan has been on me especially since I lost my dream, great job right around the time of purchase, I still believe it was the right decision for us.

Why Buy Him a Car

Some will remember two years ago when Gymnast totaled his and Princess’ car. I don’t remember if I shared here, but now that he has shared publicly I can as well, it was a suicide attempt. There is alot to that story and I will no go further into it. But I will use this to negate the comment “why buy him a car when he totaled a car.” Totally different time, place and boy. Moving on…

At the time of purchase, he was on the cusp of graduating from high school, a semester early, and staying in this tiny town was NEVER, EVER the plan for him especially of all my kids. So we had a plan that he would graduate, but no graduate, and continue his final semester at as a dual enrolled high school student at the college where Princess attends, 2 hours from here for the final semester of what was his senior year.

Following me so far? We would stack his classes on a couple of days. He would attend in person to get a taste of the bigger city and college, in general, to test it out. But he would need a good, reliable car to make this happen. He would continue to live at home, but spend 3 days a week there with Princess attending school. Then come back here to work, etc.

He would have gotten a full semester of college for just the cost of the extra gas. And he would have gotten to test the waters without any real risk and enjoyed time with his sister.

The car was purchased, the arrangement was made. And I thought we had a plan that would work for him.

What Happened

Those who have followed here for a while must have read between the lines that raising Gymnast and the amazing, talented person he is, about killed me. Getting him out of high school and to 18…well, let’s just say I am super proud. It was not an easy road, ever. Complicated by lots of things that have nothing to do with finance and are personal.

But in that final semester of high school, prior to what would have been his dual enrolled semester, we both knew that knew that more schooling, at least then was not going to work. He was not motivated. He didn’t know what he wanted to do. And in the end, we decided together that we needed a different plan.

It was very grown up. Very much a team discussion and decision to change the plan.

Instead of the above, he would graduate a semester early. And he would work. And when he turned 18, 8 months after graduating high school he would move to Texas. The date was decided last Christmas time. And we stuck to that.

He worked, he saved, he moved. And I told him that I would give him 6 months of “help” after he moved to allow him to get on this feet. We are in month 3 of that help.

What is Next

He knows what is coming. We have discussed all the details of everything. And he knows that he has options should he need to make hard decisions. But in January, he will be empowered to make those decisions and deal with the consequences. Keep the car, sell the car, use the car for work, etc. All on him. I am just giving him a leg up in as much as I can. (And yes, he does know my circumstances.)

Side Note

Without a car, where we live, you can do very little. There is no Uber, public transportation, etc. And the jobs within walking distance pay very little. This was a factor in my thinking as I begin plotting and planning last year.

And I’m sure, my fear of unreliable cars played a large part in the car I chose for both he and Princess. The first car I purchased Princess ended up being a money pit in the end. And I do not have someone to help me determine solid reliable cars.

Is it a lot of money? Yes. Is it worth my peace of mind? Absolutely yes.

Gymnast is thriving. While I was in Texas this past week, we spent a lot of time together. He is healthy, we are healthy. And it is worth every dime I have ever spent to see him growing and becoming who he is meant to be. Healthy and alive!

Gymnast and Hope on a recent visit

Gymnast and Hope on a recent visit

 

Car Damage, Roof Repairs, and Lending Money to Family

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guCar Damage and Roof Repairs

As you probably remember from my last post, we hit a deer one night and our car suffered some damage. The headlight was broken and we were afraid there may be additional issues with the bumper or body of the car that we couldn’t see. Luckily the headlight was the only part of the car that got damaged.

Our mechanic couldn’t believe it. He said that the cost of repairs when you hit a deer is usually in the thousands, so we were incredibly fortunate to just have a busted headlight, which was only a $250 repair. We’re also very grateful that we weren’t injured.

Although my partner and I were careful drivers before the collision, we’ve definitely stepped it up a notch. We’re avoiding driving at night and only going 20 or 30 mph on the backroads leading up to our house. We don’t want to take any chances, because we know we won’t get that lucky again.

Our Mechanic Found A Different Vehicle Issue

Thankfully our car wasn’t totaled in this accident, so we don’t have to replace it yet. But our mechanic did mention that our Fiesta is getting up there in mileage and something bigger could fail in the near future. He recommended scrapping the car when it needs a major repair in the $3,000 range. He found an issue with the suspension that was unrelated to the accident and will cost about $800 to fix. It’s a bit of a hit to the wallet, but on the upside, it’s less than the cost of the average deer collision.

Even though we don’t have to replace the car yet, we’re still going to prioritize cash savings. Although we have enough money saved up to buy a decent used car in cash, we need to start building up our next car replacement fund. My partner drives around 30k miles per year, so cars only last us for a few years before they need to be replaced. I also want to beef up the sinking fund we have for car and home repairs.

Beefing Up Savings

I used to think $3,000 or $4,000 was enough to keep stashed away in this account. But after seeing how expensive random emergencies like deer collisions can get, I don’t feel comfortable with that figure anymore. I think we need around $10,000 just to be safe, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on that. I don’t want to be forced to dip into our job loss/emergency fund if we run into a bigger car or home repair. When it rains it pours, so you never know if you’re going to have a string of expensive home repairs and lose your job right after. Growing up my parents had to delay home repairs like fixing a leaking sink during periods of unemployment, so I don’t want to be in that position if possible.

Struggling to Find Reliable Contractors

Speaking of home repairs, we’ve struggled to find reliable contractors in our rural area, so we’ve had to take on some more complex repairs ourselves. Our ceiling in the living room developed a small, faint ring from condensation around one of the recessed lights. It was clear there was a moisture issue emanating from the roof above, so we tried to find a roofing company to come out and take a look.

We called every roofing company in the area and had zero luck. The company that installed our metal roof wouldn’t even help us because they switched to working on shingle roofs only. To my chagrin, my partner got up on a giant ladder and decided to scout out the issue and handle the repair.

It seemed like the problem was a severely bent washer that was located right by the ring on the ceiling. The moisture ring hasn’t gotten any worse since we replaced the washer, so we think the problem is fixed. If not, we’re going to have to doggedly follow up with these roofing companies and beg somebody to come out.

Do any of you live in a rural area with a contractor shortage? What do you do to convince overscheduled contractors to come out for a short job? I think roofers are particularly hard to track down because they’re usually going after bigger projects like full roof replacements, not small piecemeal work like addressing slow leaks.

Lending Money to Family

Another thing I’d love some input on is lending money to family members. From time to time, my sister or my parents will ask for some money to hold them over until the next payday. It’s usually only a couple hundred dollars here or there and they return it promptly.

However, my parents needed to borrow a bit more money this time in the four-figure range. This gave me pause because I’ve seen firsthand how money can tear families apart. I always want to help them as much as I can because that’s what family does. I can afford to give them a couple hundred dollars as a gift if they can’t pay me back (which for the record, I’ve never had to do). But I wouldn’t be able to forgive a loan of a couple thousand dollars. So if they couldn’t return the money for some reason, it would probably cause tension in our relationship, which is the last thing I want.

How do you handle it when family members ask for cash? Do you lend them money if they’ve proven themselves to be reliable, or is it not worth the risk? Do you set any kind of limits on how much they’re allowed to borrow? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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