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Twin Update


Several BAD readers have asked for a twin update. This is more of a personal update than a money update, so please skip if not interested.

Back Story

For new readers, my twins are 19 years old. They were placed with me from the US Foster Care system two weeks before their 13th birthday. After a tumultuous couple of years waiting to see if they would go home, they became my boys legally just before their 15th birthday. They were already children of my heart.

History Buff

History Buff decided not to move to Georgia with us. He ended up not completing high school and moving back in with his biological mom. Unfortunately, that did not end well and he’s moved around a lot.

It was a really rough year and a half for him. We have kept the lines of communication open and continually offer to move him down.

For a while he worked for a family friend in construction. He is now living with some friend’s and working at a local movie theater. He just purchased a “new to him” car with his tax refund. A proud moment in his life!

history buff

Sea Cadet

When Sea Cadet arrived he was at the 3rd grade level of math, and was considered special needs in the public schools. Their goal for him (which I learned at the first ISP meeting) was that he ride the public bus alone. I was shocked and horrified, and knew he would do so much more!

You can imagine my pride when he graduated high school this year with 28 college credits. He graduated with a regular diploma! He put in the work, he didn’t give up and he never let what others said keep him down.

Sea Cadet was certified for a 504 Plan when we left for Virginia (facilitates accommodations for school and work for his special needs.) But we agreed that we wanted to give it a go here without them.

He worked part time at a local coffee shop here in Georgia. And has now returned to Virginia to work at the Christian summer camp. He has worked there for the last three summers and loves it!

College Bound

When he returns in the fall he is registered to complete a EMT certification program. It requires three consecutive semesters, so he will not be able to return to the summer camp next year. After that…who knows!

I am unbelievably proud of Sea Cadet. He has blossomed here in Georgia. Begun to take on adult responsibilities, managed his schedule, registered for his college courses and followed up on his financial aid.

Financially, because he was a special needs adoption his college expenses are paid for with government aid (grants not loans.) Our goal is to get through his college years with no debt. He and I have talked extensively about what that will require.

He is also saving toward a new car since he totaled his car last fall. Thusfar, we have done okay sharing our one car. For graduation, my parents and four siblings are giving him money towards the car. We are hoping he can afford a “new to him” car in the fall.

sea cadet with graduation cake

School Sports Cost & Fundraisers


Well, the BAD community was right again! Princess public high school volleyball team is going to cost a required $300 to the school, and other “optional” equipment costs.

Cost to Play Public School Sports

The $300 price tag is broken down into two parts:

  1. $150 – Required Volleyball kit which includes Nike shoes (retail for $110,) Nike team warm up with school emblem embroidered on it and two uniform jerseys. (All of which we get to keep after the season is over.)
  2. $150 – to pay for game dates, referees, etc.

There are 37 girls on this team. The school is collecting $11,100 for a season that last just under 2 months. Holy cow!

Evidently this is the same way other sports work. (The volleyball coach also coaches the soccer team.)

This blows my mind. The parents pay for the uniforms, the parents pay for the referees…I confirmed with my parents that when I played sports in high school this was not the case. The school provided the uniform (and kept them after the season, etc.)

Princess Serving

School Sport Fundraisers

The coach did say the girls will participate in three fundraisers to raise the funds BEFORE the parents must kick in. That’s at least a partial release.

Currently, these are the fundraisers they propose (evidently must be approved by the school board first:)

  • Co-ed volleyball tournament – $5 per player with prizes handed out to first and second place team.
  • Selling donuts – I’m guessing Krispy Kreme, have seen this one done for lots of local organizations.
  • Selling something else – Ugh!

I am so not a fan of these types of fundraisers. Princess sold chocolate bars for the theater department this last semester, what a pain. And I’m still not sure what all that work and effort was for!

I am grateful for the chance to raise some of the money, but I really wish there were other options. Have your children had to do fundraisers for school? How do you feel about them?