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Dental Insurance for the Win


I wrote back in July about how I added dental insurance to our health insurance. Well, we’ve taken it for a spin and it’s already paid for itself. Score!

Princess, Gymnast and I visited the dentist this past week, all with glowing results! No cavities for two of us, great bone density and overall fantastic oral health. Chalk one up to good hygiene habits taught from a young age. One of the kids was even told that their teeth would put dentists out of work.

But in both cases, evidently neither of my kids want to grow up. Princess still has baby teeth with no signs of being replaced. And she still doesn’t have her wisdom teeth. On the other hand, Gymnast still doesn’t have his 12 year molars. The dentist did recommend a free consult at an orthodontist in 6 months to review missing teeth and possible extraction to make room for others. Evidently, they both have short jaw lines.

One of us will return for some cavity fillings, but the estimate after insurance is only $250. (Less than 1/2 the original estimate.) And we’ve already scheduled our next cleaning.

The dental insurance is costing me right at $50 per month and our cleanings were free. So the insurance has already paid for itself with the savings on the cleanings and the cavity partial coverage. Woot, woot!

Wills, Trusts, Oh My!


I mentioned in my last post that my husband and I have our final wishes outlined clearly. A lot of people think you need to have money, or marriage, or kids, or all three before you need a will or a trust.

Those people are wrong.

I had a friend pass away. He was 40, single, and didn’t have a lot of cash to his name. He didn’t have a will. I get it, in the same situation, I probably would have skipped it too… until I watched his parents try to unravel the life of a person who wrote nothing down. I watched as they went through the trauma of burying a child, then watched as they went through the trauma of sorting a financial mess. Who did he owe what? Did he have bank accounts? What about his pension? What do they do with his car? Things dragged on forever.

My parents don’t have a will. My mom will point things out in her house and say, ‘If something happens to me, I want you to have this.’ I always respond, ‘Mom, you can’t just point something out and tell me it’s mine. You need to write things down.’ She waves her hand and says she’ll get to that eventually but she never does. I have six siblings, we get along splendidly, but I worry about how those relationships will survive the loss of our parents and the arguments over things.

Let me be very clear. A will is not for you, it is for those you love.

Here is some advice:

1 – Laws are different in every state.

My husband does home repair work for a tax attorney. He asked us if we’d be interested in some trade work. Replacing some wood beams for a legal trust. A trust? But we have no money? That’s overkill! Unless you live in the great state of California. He carefully explained probate in California and why a trust is appropriate for our needs. Should you do a trust? A will? I have no idea. Talk with experts in your state.

2 – Be prepared to deal with your emotions.

I found myself getting weepy at the thought of what to do with my kids if I die. No one will love them as much as me! Do we send them to family out of state? Keep them in state? The thought of their emotions and life upheaval was overwhelming for me. It’s normal to be emotional about the decisions.

3 – Don’t do it all at once.

We met with our attorney several times. I thought it would be easy but a trust/will done right has a lot of questions you might not know the answer to right away. For example, what happens to your estate if just you and your husband die? Do your kids get all the money immediately? On their 21st birthday? 30th? What if the whole family passes at the same time (seriously, they walked us through that)? We walked through health directives. What lengths should someone go to to save your life? Are you OK being a ‘vegetable’? When should someone ‘pull the plug’? Who makes that decision? How do you want to be buried? I couldn’t finish in one go and needed to come back. That’s normal.

4 – Do something. Anything.

Yes, I researched laws in my state. Yes, I met with an attorney. Yes, I put a heck of a lot of effort into the process. Do you need to do all that? No. A simple will from an online provider like LegalZoom would have been better than nothing when my friend died. I would appreciate if my parents wrote a couple dozen post-it notes. Something. Anything.

Remember, it’s not for you. If you love those you are leaving behind, show them how much you love them by making decisions and writing them down.