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Budget = Freedom

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My budget gives me freedom that I’ve not had in a really long time. I know this sounds pretty crazy coming from me.

But I have all outgoing expenses planned all the way through May of 2022 right now. I also have my regular income and even a savings planned for the same time period. (And I’ve planned this way for years now.)

It may not be the traditional budget, but it works for me.

How does a budget give freedom

I do not have to think for even a minute on how I will spend my money. My money plan for every month spells out where my money is going and when. All my “free” money or what people often call an allowance is kept in cash. When it’s gone, it’s gone.

This way of planning and managing my money has set me free is ways I have never experienced before.

And it’s really been enhanced by having regular income, compared to my variable income that wreaked havoc on this type of plan. Before returning to the corporate world, I was constantly having to adjust when and how much based on payment dates, partial payments and delayed payments from customers.

But now what

So I’ve had this ‘budget’ if you may for years. But I am still terrible with money. I’m ignorant of making it work for me. As good as I think I am doing and wise my decisions are becoming, some of the BAD commenters really show me how bad my relationship with money really is. As much as I might be making plenty of money now, I am still making decisions like a ‘poor person’ (I think there’s a better term but I just couldn’t think of it.)

This past week I began a money class taught by a money expert. And while it will cover all the “education points” I need, I think. The reason I chose this one was because it is promoted as dealing with the psychology of money. Today is the second class.

I thought I might share of my insights here…

Week 1 of my money course

Last week they talked about the need for a budget. Old news to me. But there were a few points that really stood out to me.

  1. Make your budget in a shame free/judgement free environment. It’s for you, you don’t have to share it if you don’t want too. Your reality is your reality and your priorities are your priorities. Yes, I know a “getting out of debt budget” is a bit different vs a how we live budget. But I think a lot of us have shame and feel judged about how we spend our money, even when we aren’t telling the world about our bad decisions on a blog.
  2. They recommended making two budgets…and I love this! I’m going to do this this weekend. The budgets they recommend are:
    1. A right now budget – how are you spending your money today
    2. A future budget – what does the perfect budget look like for you, your dream lifestyle
  3. Consider if you plan to expand or decrease your spending or maybe your income.

They shared a Google spreadsheet with a budget sheet that had two columns – monthly expenses and yearly expenses and a bunch of suggested categories. What was cool about it was that it calculated the yearly income you need to cover your budget.

Expand or Contract

The last part of the call, they talked about expanding or contracting your budgeted spending. The leaders expected the audience to all plan to expand or stay the same. I was one of the few to be adamant about contracting. (The attendees are primarily business owners looking to grow their business and manage their money better, so I get it.) On the other hand, I am looking to minimize as much as possible my monthly and yearly outlays.

They Are Always Watching…

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I’ve been struggling with the idea of moving. The physical. The emotional. It’s overwhelming. I’ve lived more than 40 years in southern California and I’m leaving everything.

I quit my job last week. I didn’t expect it would be easy but I wasn’t ready for how hard it was. Two of my staff members cried the entire meeting. One of them asked if they could go with me. To TEXAS. When I said that wasn’t possible, they said they are considering leaving the agency since I’m not there.

That was unexpected. And just freaking sweet.

Upper management was notified today during a meeting I missed. One of the director’s called me crying. “Please tell me it isn’t true” he said when he reached me on my cell phone. We’ve worked together 4 years. I’ve never seen him cry. “I’m a hard a**. I know it. But this is personal. I’m devastated. Please tell me you are going to change your mind. Please.”

My phone hasn’t stopped ringing. My e-mail is full. My heart is devastated. My boss has e-mailed me three times. More money. A promotion. Remote as long as I want. If there was a kitchen sink, they would have thrown it in.

None of these fix that California isn’t what I want anymore. Remote is appealing but so many of the reasons I’m awesome at what I do is because I’m great at people. People in person. I want remote but I’m better at people. My success is because of that.

I ran 20 miles this weekend. I sobbed for 17. BTW, SUPER hard to cry and still keep a good mile time. Crying produces horrible mile times. But this is growth. I’m not taking the easy way out. It sucks.

Last night Chris was working which meant I worked all day then made dinner. I’m an emotional train wreck at this point and crying is a daily part of my life. I turned on the kids Spotify playlist on the speakers and blasted it (gotta keep it PG with the kiddos) while making lettuce wraps and started dancing in the kitchen. I threw my arms up in the most obnoxious dance to try to keep me from falling apart. All four kids threw their hands up and started dancing with me. I so often forget that they look at me to see what is normal. How they should react when life throws them challenges. I watched as eight arms flailed in the air and thought, ‘You’ve got to be an example’. We laughed and danced to Marshmello.

This is going to be a hard year. Yes, I need to be real but I also need to keep four kids afloat. Kids are watching.

Throw your arms up and dance.