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I Do Now I Don’t



Has anyone heard of this website?  I remember a friend mentioning it in passing the first time Steve moved out but I didn’t give it much thought at the time.   Now that things are completely over I am ready to investigate.  It helps that Steve totally tried to screw me over on taxes and I need $5,000 to give the IRS by March 28.  I’d like to keep my emergency fund as intact as possible so it sounds delightful to have Steve indirectly pay for the tax bill by selling my wedding rings and his (that I made him take off and leave on the day of his move out—he hesitated because at that time I really think he thought there was a chance to play this game again). As you all know I’m sure, I’m not going to get a lot of money by trying to sell it to a jeweler.  I remembered this website and so I’ve started looking into it.  I thought I’d open it up to the readers in case any of you have better ideas or know something about this website.  It appears that there are two options.  You can auction the items like ebay or you can get a direct offer from the company.  Oh and you’ll love this tidbit:  Steve took a pre-marital 401K withdrawal to buy the stupid ring to begin with!  I didn’t know THAT until we had to pay the penalties for tax year 2009.

For those of you wondering, I will not be adding this $5,000 to my debt list.  I have a date certain that it must be paid and I refuse to consider it part of my “blogging away debt.”  Instead I am making plans to “find” $5,000 while still paying down my debt according to plan.  The tax nightmare has only just begun…not for me though.  I’ve “righted” everything and have a plan to pay what I owe.  So glad I’m no longer connected to that train.

Incomplete stories…


I know that I have so many unfinished topics and stories on the blog.  You all know from my first 5 months as the blogger that I don’t usually leave a story untold.  I write today to express my frustration about not being able to be a completely open book.  It is really a terrible feeling for me to experience.  I know none of my readers are angry because of the many unfinished stories but it is really tough for me.  My nature is to just be an open book so to hold back is very stressful for me.

All of that said, I am also smart enough to know that no one is going to protect me but me and I cannot disclose everything at this time.  Although it is a silent battle, I cannot forget that I am indeed in the middle of a battle with a man who I do not recognize and I cannot predict.

The tax issue was addressed this weekend and it isn’t pretty.  I got a single line,  typed letter from Steve saying he will pay the IRS directly.  That’s it.  That is all he said.  I have no idea what that means but will not concern myself with trying to decipher his code.  I called in a favor to a dear friend who is a CPA (and one I’ve helped several times through the years with free legal advice–and isn’t that another great life lesson?  Pay it forward people b/c it will come back to you tenfold.  I could have been charged thousands for what my friend had to dig through this weekend and I was not charged) and while I certainly don’t like what I learned, knowledge is power.  I know now what I am dealing with and will act accordingly.  Forgive me for not being able to share details but I will eventually.

Even with this heaviness, it was a great weekend.  Church was all about the fear we all have of “letting go.”  Sometimes from basic material things and also the big stuff that holds us back.  I was there in my marriage.  I was so afraid of losing what I thought I had, what I had created as my reality that I actually ignored reality!  The message is that letting go always leads to bigger and better blessings.

Happy Monday!