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Unpredictability

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It’s funny, even after 3 years of blogging here, you guys always keep me on my toes! When publishing posts that I think might be controversial (like this one or this one), I’m met with nothing but understanding and support. And then I write a post that I think is more innocuous (like this one) and I’m met with backlash on a level I haven’t seen or experienced since early on in my blogging days. Before my financial successes, I was initially met with quite a bit of criticism (some constructive, some….not-so-much).

Nevertheless, I’m in academia. If anyone is familiar with the struggle of responding to “Reviewer #2” (an academic meme), then you know you must learn to grow thick skin.

For the record – nothing in the comments was as bad as “Reviewer 2.” In fact, most of the critiques were well-founded and reasonable. I agree with (most of) you! It’s definitely time for a reset. I’ve been working toward that end and am making some good progress on a total budget overhaul. I appreciate the time and efforts many of you took to leave tips and suggestions or recommendations. I’ll look forward to receiving more help and support when I actually post my budget numbers (eeeeeek! I’ll need it!)

For the time being, I just wanted to pop in and say thanks for your feedback! If you haven’t yet, check out the comments on my “controversial” post – I’m making my way through and trying to respond to as many as possible. I’m not always responding to specifics (in terms of numbers) because some of that will be addressed in a forthcoming budget post.

Have a great rest of the week!

~Ashley

 


It’s Good to Be Back

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I’m so excited to be writing here again. I was shocked when Ashley’s post mentioned we had been writing here for 3 1/2 years now (we started the same week.) I feel like I need to go back and re-read where I’ve been sometime soon to prove how far I’ve come. Just a recap of what comes to mind:

  • We lost our home and moved into a tiny apartment.

    Not sure what we would do without board games. Between work, gymnastics training and school, board games keep us sane!

  • We sold our giant van.
  • We lived survived and thrived living in 900 square feet with all five of us and our 4 animals.
  • I lost my primary source of income.
  • We spent 9 months ‘glamping’ when I could no longer afford our apartment. I’m grateful for the gift, it kept us from becoming truly homeless or spending a single night in a shelter.
  • We had to say good-bye to all our animals in one way or another, but enjoyed raising chickens while we were glamping.
  • We moved to another state earlier this year and in with my grandmother.
  • I got a great new job.
  • I continue to work 2 part time jobs and a variety of odd jobs.
  • We rented our very own home in Georgia, leaving one of the twins in Virginia, and now we each have our own bedroom after 3 years of tiny living.
  • For the first time in a LONG time, we are not living paycheck to paycheck.  But I still have a long way to go in learning to make better money choices and becoming truly debt free.
  • And this is where we begin today.

So much has happened during my life on BAD. I can’t wait to see where we go next. I write this as Irma rages outside. I was so grateful to be able to work from home today and tomorrow while she moves on through. We’ve had some limbs fall on the roof, one took out our backside neighbors brand new fence. We will wander out when it’s over and see the damage, but for now I’m just grateful for a cozy home.

I’ve made some terrible financial decisions lately. And it’s huge for me to be able to just say that. I even said as must out loud to a friend this past weekend when we went out for chips and dip. Thinking with my heart instead of my head. More on those coming soon. But I definitely recognize that I have a problem.