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It’s Moving Day

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Today is moving day.  So needless to say, I am not in front of my computer.  In fact, my computer is probably already packed up in our van, ready to be taken over after we unload the moving truck.

Here’s how I’m predicting the day is going…written one week in advance.

Last night we loaded the moving truck with everything that was already in the garage along with the remaining furniture from the house aside from our mattresses.

We all showered last night for the last time in our home, taking down the shower curtains after we were finished so they are ready to put up at the new place.

Since we are down to three outfits and we sold our washer and dryer over the weekend, we are on our last clean outfit.  Thank goodness our new apartment has a washer and dryer ready for use, and we can unpack the rest of our clothes later today.

We pack the last remaining items into the truck…mattresses, suitcases and bedding.  Whatever doesn’t fit in the truck can be thrown in the van to be brought over later in the day along with the computers, tvs and other electronics.

Our kitchen was packed this past weekend, and the refrigerator cleaned yesterday so no eating breakfast at home.  So as soon as everyone is up and these tasks done, we head out for an old fashioned, cheap McDonald’s breakfast.

We arrive via moving van at the apartment complex, I do the walk through, hand them some money and get the keys….moving time has begun.

Since we have so little now and it’s been well packed and organized, I anticipate unloading will take no more than 45 minutes.

I will leave the twins here to start putting together our two bed frames and I will, hopefully with a neighbors help, return the moving truck and pick up our van.

I will then return to the apartment, picking up lunch somewhere along the way and we will spend the next couple of hours unpacking and organizing.

I know shelves will need to be hung, etc, but I’m not sure of measurements until we get there, so those things will happen over time.

By 2pm I anticipate us being done, the twins showering and the little ones resting.  Then we will begin the rest of our lives in our new tiny space….twins will head to their competitive robotics teams meeting and little gymnast to his four hour practice.

I will return to our old home to say goodbye, to cry and to store in my heart all the wonderful memories we have made there.  It was a sanctuary as my marriage failed and ended, it is where I found my best and truest friends, it is where I regained my sense of self and learned to stand on my own two feet again, it was where the twins joined our family and became a permanent part of my heart and so, so much more.

I don’t think I’ll be ready to cook dinner tonight either, so that means three meals out today.  To me, this is really unavoidable.  What do you do when you have those days where you just have to make do?


Question of the Week – Defining Success

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This is our Sunday series where we all respond to reader questions. If you want to submit a question, please go to this post.

Question of the Week

Beyond the numbers – how will you define success throughout this process? posted by Jenna

Stephannie

This is a question that I would have answered very differently just a couple of weeks ago.  My moms recent diagnosis has really made me look at things in a different way. One thing that has not changed is that I have never been a numbers person. I avoid them at all costs which, let me tell you, that strategy has done wonders for our debt situation. Sarcasm aside, the numbers were never really what I considered when I thought about success in becoming debt free. I used to think that I’d feel successful when we would only rely on ourselves for the things we want and need. When we would use good judgment and if we did not have money for things we want then instead of running out and getting a loan we would reassess and either save up or realize it was something that we didn’t really need. I always thought once our thinking was changed and it had become second nature, I’d feel successful.  Now, I just want to be able to take care of my family. If my mom needs me to take her to the doctor in Houston I don’t want to have to worry that I can’t afford to take a day off of work because I need to pay a furniture loan, or pay on a credit card that has some charges that I don’t even remember what they’re for. Having to make that choice just seems so stupid. So, now I will feel like we are successful when debt no longer rules our lives. We go to work everyday and spend more time with coworkers than we do with our family. I want that money that I make those sacrifices for, to really count. 

Jim

As in life, things are mostly done in baby steps.  Having these small achievements will keep me motivated for the long haul.  There is three things that if came true, I would define it as success.  The first being is the numbers, let’s be honest seeing your Debt Number really does motivate you every day.  The second, is to get in a different mindset, one that is set up for success.  And the third is to change my children’s thoughts about money.  My daughter really has a hard time grasping the idea of money, she thinks that we can buy anything, whenever we want.  She is always begging for everything, just to not play with them.  I really would like to change her thinking.

Hope

Great question! I think there are two ways I will truly measure success other than the debt numbers…First, seeing a change in my children’s attitudes towards money.  Seeing them make wiser decisions with their own money, learning to budget our grocery money and being willing and even excited to earn money.  This would be a huge plus to me out of this whole process!

Second, the stress reduction and loosening of then noose around my neck as I am able to pay bills easily without strategizing so much each and every time I get some money would be awesome. This will come not only from the lowering of the debt numbers, but continuing to consciously choose more frugal choices in a lot of areas, enough so that those choices become habits rather than things I have to think about each and every time.

Ashley

This is a hard one because I am intrinsically motivated by the numbers (seeing the debt amount go down, the amount in savings go up, etc. etc.), so I think I automatically associate the numbers with “success.” But, obviously, theres so much more to debt-reduction than just the numbers! For me, I think another way to measure success is in becoming content with what we have. Its so easy to be tempted with things we see in stores or on TV and the “I want” mentality is rampant at least in the U.S. (and elsewhere too, I imagine??) I’ve been trying to learn to want what I have and be content with that. I am very fortunate. I have a great family and a blessed life. I’m still working toward it (it’s so easy to be tempted by “stuff”), but I think that finding peace with what we have and not always desiring to have the next “hot” gadget or gizmo is a good goal to have. I would love to instill the same values in our children, as well. That, in my opinion, would be a huge “success” on this debt-repayment journey.

Are the rich bad people?

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According to an MSN article, rich folks aren’t good. They are ‘less empathetic, less altruistic, and generally more selfish.’

Really?

I was floored by the statement, ‘They think that economic success and political outcomes, and personal outcomes, have to do with individual behavior, a good work ethic.’

Call me crazy but… I agree. I don’t want to talk about politics or government but I do believe that individual behaviors (like frugality, a good moral compass, and a hard work ethic) have A LOT to do with personal and economic success.

But then again, I guess I’m an optimist.

Read the article. Agree? Or Not?