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Drivers License : It Could Change Our Lives


One adult, Four children, Three Two dogs, One cat – three working, two days a week of homeschool co op, four in activities, all social.  The amount of time I have spent in the car every week…well, it makes me dizzy just thinking back on it.  But now, I’m getting some relief!  Please join me in congratulating History Buff on receiving his drivers license this week!

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For now, he’s only driving himself places until I and he are comfortable with the idea of him truly driving (ok, mostly me.)  But that has already taken a load off since he works almost every day.  Woot, woot!

Financially this is actually helping me…he is paying his own car insurance at $72 per month (he already pays part of his phone bill) and I am going to fill up his car one time per month approx $20 for times he helps me by running errands or taking others to an activity.  He will otherwise be responsible for all gas and car maintenance for his car.

So even during the challenges we are facing, some exciting things are happening over here!

Ashley’s Year In Review (2015)


I know we’re now a full week into the new year, but I always like to look back and reflect on the previous year around this time. So indulge me in a week-late review of some of the big highlights of 2015.

Personal and Financial Goals

The year began (or really was preceded by) setting some big goals. We had one list of financial goals, and a second list of goals related to “growing up” (in my mind this meant doing things like getting wills, life insurance, etc.). By the end of the year we hadn’t quite met all of our financial goals, but we’d made incredible progress. In all, we paid off over $26,000 in debt!!! We did even better on our “year of becoming an adult” goals. We fully accomplished 3 of our 4 goals and are well underway on the 4th goal (see update here). We’ve set some pretty lofty financial goals for 2016, too!


In early January, we made some pretty big changes to the way we did our budget. This eventually lead us to using YNAB for budgeting (we’d previously used an Excel file). I still can’t say enough great things about YNAB. I really think it’s made a huge impact on how well we’ve been able to stick to our budget and, therefore, how well we’ve done with paying off debt (see my full review here).

One of the categories in our budget that we really struggled with this year was our grocery budget. I talked several times about our efforts to make cheap meals, saving money by making homemade yogurt (super easy and so tasty!), DIY-ing pumpkin spice coffee (a personal fave), and trying my hardest to meal plan (which was much easier when I worked from home compared to an office-setting, and I’m still learning to balance competing needs).

I also saved a lot of money on self-maintenance this year. With the exception of 2 professional cut/colors (which I did prior to big job interviews), I’ve saved money in our budget by cutting and coloring my own hair for the past 21 months (but who’s counting? hehe). I’ve even received compliments on my self-maintained hair and really like my new darker color. To be transparent, I did just barely receive a professional cut/color from my Mom as a birthday gift, so this totals 3 professional jobs (only 2 that I personally paid for) in nearly 2 years.


I interviewed for 3 separate jobs in 2015:  one in January (recap), one in March, and one in June. I was offered the third job (third times a charm!) and accepted the position soon thereafter. I started the position in July and have been very happy in the job ever since (though I have plans to try to negotiate for a title change and more money).




Before I started our debt reduction mission we really spent a ton of money on gift-giving. Since starting to blog here, I’ve drastically reduced the amount spent on gifts. I now try to spend an average of about $15-20 per gift (though hubs and I set a $50 limit on gifts to each other). I talked about a cheap classroom gift here and waxed poetic about the impact of a hand-written thank you note (as opposed to an expensive flower delivery). I also talked about a cheap going away gift basket, a cheap Mother-in-Law (or grandparent) gift, an inexpensive alternative wedding gift, and relatively inexpensive ($50 limit) anniversary gifts.

Kids Crafts


The kids did lots of fun and cheap crafts this year. A sampling of crafts include: a  Valentine’s craft, a Mother’s Day craft, and an Easter craft. All of these doubled as cheap cards/gifts for family, too!


Our entertainment budget was really bare bones this year as we tried to funnel all our extra money toward debt. But that doesn’t mean we didn’t have fun! I talked about a free family activity here and a free painting class (courtesy of Yelp Elite) here. I also shared how we got cheap Halloween costumes for the kids and had fun with a cheap-ish birthday day date for hubs’ 33rd birthday.



In April we celebrated kicking hubs’ license fee debt to the curb! That left us with only the car loan, some medical debt, and the monstrous student loans to contend with. That same month I did a balance transfer of a higher-interest student loan (8.5%) to a 0% APR credit card to pay off one of my Navient student loans at a lower rate (just paid a 2% initiation fee). I also celebrated when we paid off another of my Navient student loans back in October. It’s no secret that I freaking hate Navient, so I can’t wait to rid them from my life!


In June I let you know something I’d been keeping a bit of a secret. I have a very close family member experiencing a debilitating illness for which there is no cure. I later told you all that the “close family member” is my father and divulged that his diagnosis is frontotemporal degeneration (a type of dementia). I had a rough time in regard to processing this information. I was painfully honest about the scary feelings and emotions experienced knowing that his health is quickly declining and my siblings and I will be tasked with becoming his caretaker and all of the other financial implications of the situation. I also discussed prioritizing the costs of therapy so I could take care of myself. I never updated, but I did in fact search for therapists but there was only one person who really stood out to me as a good fit. Of course, that person was not accepting new clients at the time and, feeling overwhelmed by life, the new job, etc., I never pursued any other options. To be honest, I do think I’ll try again to find someone to talk to in the New Year. I feel like I am in a much better place mentally than I was when I first wrote this post (or this one, too), but I know my Dad’s health issues will continue to be a HUGE deal in my life and I would like to see someone at least occasionally to help me process everything as his disease progresses.


2015 was a wild year! Lots of great successes – Can I get a high five for that $26,000+ of debt that was paid off!?! and some tough times, too. In 2016 we plan to split our priorities a bit between saving for a house and continuing to pay off debt, but I know that we’ll continue to make great progress along the way. I’ve admitted before that I may loosen up the purse strings slightly. I think it’s important to have more regular date nights and such. But I also can’t wait to make some big dents to our debt this year. This will be the first full year of me having a full-time job and income (in addition to my part-time job & hubs’ job). With the additional money we really hope to do some crazy things in 2016. A house, a car (not a new one, but our current one being paid off), punching Navient in the nose, and so on. Great things ahead, friends! Thank you for joining me on life’s wild ride!

Year Of Becoming An Adult: Final Status


Back in October 2014 I wrote about wanting to use 2015 to really “become adults.” To me, this meant taking care of some much needed issues that were in addition to my 2015 financial goals. I wrote a few posts throughout the year with updates (January update, March update, September update, October update), so this will be my final update of the series.

  1. Wills. Wills were actually drawn up at the beginning of 2015, but it took us awhile to actually get them notarized. This task was completed by mid-year. Final status = Complete
  2. Life Insurance For Hubs. We had intended to start working on this mid-year, but didn’t actually get around to applying until October. In November hubs completed all the bloodwork and in early December he was asked to supply some additional information (all stemming back to his mysterious illness at the end of 2013 where our medical bills are from). He finished everything on his end but we’re still waiting to hear back from the company. When I first applied for health insurance it took about 3 months to all be processed so I’m thinking this is normal (and not something directly related to his mystery illness). If he doesn’t hear back sometime in the next couple weeks we’ll check back with them but I’ve got my fingers crossed everything is in order and our next interaction will be mailing off a check to actually finish the process. Final status = Well underway, but waiting to hear back from insurance company
  3. Open Retirement Accounts. We opened up a Roth IRA in April 2015 and a 401(a) through my work in July 2015. I fund 10% of my pay to the 401, and we’ve saved a little extra here and there for the Roth (but a truly minimal amount…something I’d like to increase in 2016). Final status = Complete
  4. Open College Savings For The Kids. We opened up one 529 for each child in October 2015 and we’ve been funding them with $25/month each ($50/month total). Not a lot, but every little bit helps! Final status = Complete

Overall, not too shabby. I wish we’d started the life insurance stuff a bit earlier in the year so it was all wrapped up and done by now, but at least it’s well underway and if it doesn’t work out it will be because we were denied (not due to our own lack of trying). But hubs’ health has been great and, especially with his weight loss, I’m really hoping everything goes through smoothly and he’s able to be insured. It will certainly give me great peace of mind.

How have you done on your financial (or other) goals in 2015? Do you have any new goals or resolutions set for 2016? I’d love to hear them!


Merry Christmas Eve!


And Happy Holidays and all that good stuff! ; )

This year is special for us. It’s the first time (EVER IN OUR LIVES) that we’re staying at our own home for Christmas. Hubs (then boyfriend) and I first moved away from Austin back in 2007 (when we moved to Florida). Since that time, we have always made our way back to Austin for the Christmas holiday. Last year hubs really made a case for staying home for the holiday but I just wasn’t ready yet. This year we made a great compromise (and one that I think we’ll continue into the future). We’re staying in our own home in Tucson for Christmas, then heading back to Austin for New Years. Ultimately, we still get to spend a week with family but now we get to start creating our own family traditions at home.

And everything seems so much more magical this year simply because the girls’ age (3.5 years old) is such that they’re finally really getting everything. They know all about Santa and the reindeer, but they also know about Jesus’s birth in the stable, etc.

They performed in a sweet Christmas performance at their preschool (adorable!), helped me make sugar cookies to leave out for Santa (and we’ve got carrots for the reindeer), and we just took them to their first ever movie in a theater! For any locals, we went to the Fox Tucson Theater and saw the Polar Express. It was my first time ever going to Fox and I was really impressed! For non-locals, the Fox is a historic venue that shows movies, has concerts, plays, etc. They did The Polar Express as a special event. It was PJ night and they gave free bells, peppermint sticks, and hot chocolate out. Plus, kid’s tickets (for age 12 and under) are FREE! Can’t beat that!

We sat up in the balcony with the kids which still had a great view of the screen and was so much fun, as balcony seats are double the size (room for two people per seat), so we were able to snuggle up together. As I said, this was the girls’ first movie in a theater and they LOVED it! Afterward they kept saying “the theater is FUN!”


I promise she really did have a lot of fun! Those are tired eyes after the movie was over, as the movie ended at what is typically their bed time. See her showing off/shaking her bell!?

I’ve mentioned before that we’d initially hoped to take the girls to The Polar Express experience up in Flagstaff this year. That turned out to be too far outside our budget, but this was a really fun alternative for a fraction of the cost and we are already planning to build room in our budget for the Flagstaff Polar Express next year. I think it will be even more fun at age 4.5 (plus we’ll be consumer debt-freeeeeeeee), so I think it will all work out for the best.

Speaking of Christmas-related spending, is everyone done with holiday shopping? Since we aren’t back in Texas yet I haven’t been quite as on top of things, but I’m hoping to pick some things up today (most shoppers are done so there are already tons of sales and stores aren’t as crowded as you might think). One cheap idea I’ll throw out (since these family members don’t read) is the whole adult coloring book concept that’s sweeping the world right now.  My brother is in the middle of a nasty divorce (that completely blind sighted him just about a month ago…right before the holidays. sad face.) He has several children so I got jumbo coloring books for the kids, and an adult stress-relieving pattern coloring book for him + crayons and colored pencils. A whole family gift that they can do together for about $15, total. I got my Dad an adult coloring book, too, so it’s kind of a theme this year. Just in case anyone is in a bind and still looking for something on the cheap.

Anyway….I’m going to go spend the day with my kiddos. We have a park playdate this morning, a tiny bit of shopping to do, and all our fun Christmas eve activities (traditions include attending a Christmas Eve service, reading The Night Before Christmas, and opening one present before bed). Please everyone send good-sleeping vibes/prayers our way. The kids have been REALLY bad about getting up in the middle of the night and wandering around lately, so I’m a little nervous about them “catching Santa” (or seeing Santa’s gifts) in the middle of the night. As always, our grandparents have really spoiled the kids with TONS of presents already under the tree. Hubs and I went pretty minimalist on their presents. They got some practical things (e.g., really needed new shoes), and cheap things they’ll love (e.g., bath fizzy/colored tablets and $3 purses). Their “big” gift is that they’re both getting a scooter. Again, I initially wanted to do something much more expensive (I had my eye on this Elsa/Frozen car for $250), but when it was clear the budget wouldn’t accommodate that, we ended up with these scooters for $25 each. Hubs’ and I put a $50 limit on gifts for each other. I was able to get him a rolling tool chest. It’s this model, but I purchased it from an open box store here in Tucson so I got it at a steep discount.  Hope he likes it!

Merry, merry, happy day to you, readers! Thank you for your endless support and kind words in good times and bad. 2015 has been a roller-coaster of a year. It’s been nice to feel like we’re on this ride together. Hope you all have a fabulous (and frugal, if you’re still in debt-reduction mode) holiday season!

A List of Status Updates – Hope


Well, sorry I’ve been AWOL, but I’m not sure I have stopped to breathe the last couple of weeks and no end in site for this week either.  But I didn’t want to miss another week so pardon the list but this is what has happened over the last couple of weeks:

  1. My parents were here for their annual visit and it was GREAT!  No tension and they were super supportive of our current situation doing a bit of extra Christmas for the kids since I wouldn’t be able too.  They also gave me a little money to put to bills after seeing my itemized list of where I was at financially.  I had asked them not to come, not sure if I could handle the stress, but in the end, I’m glad they did.
  2. Little Gymnast competed in his local meet and did FANTASTIC, bringing home 2nd on floor and 8th all around.  There were 150 kids competing in his session, so pretty big deal.
  3. Princess is in the midst of basketball season now that volleyball has ended, and her choir sang in 7 performances at our church this weekend for over 8000 guests.  Super busy.
  4. Twins are both working almost full time over this break (we finished the semester the first week of December and will go back the middle of January.)  They are also continuing studies for English, Geometry and AP Psych, not to mention getting ready for robotics competition at the end of January.  So while it’s a little less hectic…not much!
  5. No more word on the job front for me as far as full time goes.  But I am looking forward to starting my new part time job the first week of January, it’s all scheduled for me to travel for training.
  6. Amazingly, I have been picking up piecemeal work left and right, keeping me on my toes doing an assortment of computer support, training and website work.

Life is good.  As of tonight, I have enough to cover all my bills for December – woot, woot!

And I have to tell you my faith has made a HUGE difference this past month.  I have really focused on staying focused on being grateful, living by faith and trusting that God has a plan for us.  I have never been through rougher financial times but to be honest, I’ve never felt so secure that we are being looked out for, and that is truly a blessing.

My stories of how and whom has provided for us would blow your mind.  I won’t be buying any Christmas presents this year.  I am very grateful for what my parents have provided and some of our community members are also contributing to make this special for the kids.

I will write more soon, but just wanted to get a note out to you and let you know how we are doing.  Here’s wishing you and yours a very Merry Christmas season.  We are truly celebrating the many, many blessings that we have every day.

Not Enough Hours


Hey guys! Sorry for disappearing for a whole week! Yikes! With the holiday season in full force and the semester wrapping up (right in the middle of finals), I’ve definitely been scrambling to try to get everything done. This is the girls’ last week of preschool until the New Year and while I’m SO SO SO excited for the break together….I’d be lying if I didn’t say I was also a bit stressed to try to finish everything work-related this week, as well as Christmas shopping, some stuff needing to be done for my Dad, etc.

That being said, we’ve managed to squeeze in some fun FREE (or cheap) Christmas-related activities. People often associate big price tags ($$$) with Christmas, but it doesn’t have to be that way! Here’s a sampling of the fun things we’ve done….

  • Attend the Christmas tree lighting in our town. It’s a totally free event, plus they have free cookies and hot chocolate, dance performances from local dance groups and schools, hot air balloon shows, bounce houses for kids, and everything culminated with the lighting of the Christmas tree. The lights are on a timer that is synced up with music. It’s really a beautiful display and 100% free!
  • Attend a live Nativity performance by our local church. This was the first year (since we’ve been in the area – apparently they used to do it many years ago) that our church has hosted this event. It was incredible and I cannot imagine the number of hours and manpower that went into the event. A huge stable, a village inn, all the cast and crew (including LIVE ANIMALS!!!!), and the simple story of Jesus’ birth. It was beautiful (albeit freezing, as it was outside) and the girls loved seeing the story acted out and getting to pet the donkeys afterward. Again – 100% free.
  • Driving around to see Christmas lights. We’re lucky that a neighborhood not far from us is one of the ones in Tucson known for their light display. We bought hot chocolate from a gas station (much cheaper than from Starbucks, and just as delicious) and drove the neighborhood enjoying all the sparkly lights. Free!
  • Holiday parties with friends. We attended a potluck holiday party this past weekend that was a blast! There was a Santa (who actually gave out presents!!!), an incredible spread of food, good friends, and good times. The host really outdid herself! This only cost us the food that we brought to share (we brought a yummy cranberry cream cheese dip I like to make around Thanksgiving/Christmas).
  • Holiday parties at school. Our girl’s school has 2 holiday parties: one on Wednesday and one on Thursday (because many of the kids only attend T/Th or MWF). Since our girls go to school all 5 days they have TWO parties to attend. They were instructed to bring a gift for a big class gift exchange. We’ve got two children, two days of parties = four gifts to bring. Gifts were supposed to be in the $5-7 range. I went to the Target dollar bins and stocked up on little trinkets and I think we were able to put together some really nice gift packages for $5-6 each. One was an Elsa gift (Elsa mirror, bag, and book), one was an art gift (markers, crayons, and paper), one was a girlie gift (sparkly bows, headbands, and matching sparkly clutch), and one was a book gift (4 different books + some holiday window clings). About $20 total for the 4 gifts, which isn’t too bad. I want to go back to Target again when I don’t have the girls with me to pick out some stocking stuffer gifts. They really had some awesome options in the dollar bins!

I have so much more I want to tell you guys! We’ve had some unexpected expenses this month (boo!!!!) and I’m trying to negotiate at my job for a new title and possible raise (crossing my fingers). I will update on both as soon as I am able.

Hope you’re all having a great week! Don’t let the holiday craze cost you a ton of money! Share your cheap/free holiday outings or events in the comments!

Teaching Financial Responsibility


I have written many times about financial lessons and my children…How the Kids are Involved and Helping Kids Manage Money are just a couple of them.  But now we are dealing with a new situation and I’d like your opinion.


Last spring, History Buff saved up enough money and bought himself a smartphone and has paid the data fee associated with it ($30 per month.)   At the time of purchase, he also bought a good, name brand protective case.  He ended up taking the case off the phone because it made the phone too bulky in his pocket.

My Observations

Over the last months I have seen him on several occasions, make the statement of how the phone is “shatter resistant” or “shatter proof” and then drop it on softer surfaces to make his point.  Multiple times, I told him this wasn’t a good idea AND that it would be wiser to keep the case on it.


At homeschool co op a couple of weeks ago, evidently, History Buff was doing the same show I had seen several times.  And a girl seeing this either knocked the phone from his hand or he handed it to her and she dropped it as well.  He claims the former, but the girl’s mom claims she saw the incident and that it was the latter.  I tend to believe my son is telling the truth.

When it happened, he called me crying.  I had two gut reactions: anger that this happened and what I see clearly at his part in it (not having the case on and his ‘demoing’ the shatter proof) and sadness that I was not in a position to financially fix it for him.

Follow up

I waited a couple of weeks hoping the girl’s parents would reach out to take responsibility or at least partial responsibility.  But I/we hear nothing.  I called the mom and she essentially said History Buff was lying about his version of the story and thus her daughter was not at fault.

I didn’t have a clue what to do.  I was torn between defending my son whom I believe and calling another parent/adult a liar.  So I called the administrator of the co op and asked for her input.  She called a couple of witnesses without speaking to my son and they compared their versions with what History Buff told her and there was no variation.  She is going to follow up with the other parent.

So Who Should Pay

Should History Buff bear the cost of repair/replacement alone?  Should the other student bear it alone? Or should it be split? Or ???

I voiced my opinion to the administrator that I felt that History Buff’s actions which I have witnessed in the past set a bad precedent and having the case off was irresponsible.  So I believe him to be at least partially responsible.

As soon as I said that, the administrator said “no, this is not his fault.”  We are great friends and I respect her opinion and view on the matter.  So we agree to disagree.

Current Status

My sister had an old phone that she is letting History Buff borrow until he can save the money to get his fixed.  We are still awaiting feedback from the other family, but I do not think I will pursue it further.  I just don’t want any bad blood in our tight knit homeschool community.

But am I doing a disservice to History Buff by not pursuing his side further and just letting it drop?  I value his honesty and want to reward that and I don’t want him to think I don’t have his back in these types of situations.  So what are your thoughts?