Have you ever said anything to your spouse and immediately regretted it, even when it did need saying? I totally had one of those moments last night!
My darling hubby is a romantic at heart and came home with flowers after work, because he knew that I had had a difficult day dealing with the ramifications of the recent loss in our family. Sweet, right? Here comes my totally cringe-worthy moment. My first words in response were “Thank you, but those really weren’t in the budget”. Yeah, you can break out the pitchforks now, I am fully aware how awful that was! Luckily, the hubby is awesome and totally got it and it didn’t cause a conflict, but I certainly felt like a jerk!
This event got me thinking to all the little things that we spend money on that are not really needed. Hubby will bring me flowers, I will buy his favorite candy bar to sneak into his lunchbox. Those little signs of affection are very much important aspects of our marriage, and are something I need to plan for that I really hadn’t considered previously.
The flower situation also made me realize through the conversation that followed, that hubby, while wanting to get out of debt, is not quite ready to go kung fu, hard core on it yet. That means I have a new aspect to the debt reduction challenge. How do I make it happen as quickly as I want it to, while making sure that Hubby isn’t feeling the “pain” of it? Any tips or ideas?