Comments on: Debt Update…

By: Slinky

Slinky — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:07:01 +0000

I just went through some crazy bridesmaid expenses as well. We’re wearing floor length gowns, but we all need to have a certain color shoe? What?! Now that I’m planning my wedding, I’m trying to make it easy. I’ve told all the girls they can wear any long, formal, black gown. Everyone can get whatever they like and looks good on them and fits in their budget. There’s one accessory I’d like them all to have, but they’re getting really nice, fancy ones as their bridesmaid gifts. I’ve also included in my budget the cost of them getting their hair and makeup done. So, hopefully they’ll all have pretty minimal expenses.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 05:10:06 +0000

Hey, it may have been a bad month but it’s not the end of the road. Remember that before you took the class that was your everyday life. It’s good to know that now it’s just temporary : )

By: Kari

Kari — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 22:29:49 +0000

Not to be too judgmental, but you knew these weddings were coming – did you have a plan in place to save for them?

Also, are your savings for emergencies? If so, then attending a wedding (and the related events associated with them, i.e. bachelorette parties) doesn’t really qualify. Of course your brother’s wedding is something you can’t miss, but you’re doing yourself a disservice if you have to dip into your savings to pay for it.

By: Cheapskate Sandy

Cheapskate Sandy — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 18:19:08 +0000

I made it a rule a long time ago to not be in any wedding with the exception of my best friend since grade school. It’s worked out so far.

Weddings are an especially expensive and prohibitive for many people but it’s hard to turn down a friend. I’ve used the phrase that I am happy that they have found love, and I will celebrate with them but not as a party in the wedding. Works for me.

By: mewithoutdebt

mewithoutdebt — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 06:14:35 +0000

Sad to hear that. My month was pretty good as far as debt payment was concerned. Here is my post http://www.mewithoutdebt.com/2009/10/debt-roundup-october-2009.html

By: Dan

Dan — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 16:28:00 +0000

I think this post is a great lesson to all the folks getting married out there–try to think of the costs to your guests!

I certainly wouldn’t want a close friend to not be able to attend due to expenses.

By: 2dogcasa

2dogcasa — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 15:13:25 +0000

It is extraordinarily costly to be in a wedding, that’s for sure! The last two times I was in a wedding, I was surprised by how much I was asked to spend. It is so hard to say no as a bridesmaid.

I was in a wedding about a month ago, though, where I was “just” a reader. I wore dresses I already owned to the rehearsal dinner and wedding and didn’t have to pony up for a salon hairdo or pedicure and manicure. Actually, the bride totally understood my budget concerns when I told her I couldn’t afford a night on the town for her bachelorette party. I had 17 cents in my bank account that day. Maybe next time you or your husband are asked to be in the party, maybe you can defer and request to do a reading instead.

Or maybe next time, you can say you’re touched, flattered, but just unable to swing it financially. Either way, (costly) lesson learned! And kudos for avoiding the credit cards!

By: Maureen

Maureen — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 12:33:40 +0000

Celebrate the fact that you didn’t have to put the cost on the dreaded credit card! That’s HUGE in my opinion…. This is probable terrible to say, but I hate when I get INVITED to weddings of people I hardly know….. UGH!

By: John DeFlumeri Jr

John DeFlumeri Jr — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 10:34:50 +0000

Weddings are very rough financially, best only as a guest rather than an important particupant.