Comments on: Spilling The Financial Beans http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/ Our Journey to a Debt-Free Life Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:06:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mrs. Moderntightwad http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/comment-page-1/#comment-765650 Mrs. Moderntightwad Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:11:22 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/?p=2534#comment-765650 More importantly, tell someone who matters. Like you said, in comparison to blog readers, telling his grandparents lit a renewed fire. And there's nothing wrong with rallying the troops in a family. It's embarassing, we don't want them to worry about us, and we'd like to think we can take care of everything ourselves (in my fantasy mind I'm still a superwoman who can take over the universe), but that's not always the case. Our family can offer help we might not have thought of, and they can help keep us on track. It also mitigates issues that may come from requesting family vacations, large contributions to gifts, etc. More importantly, tell someone who matters. Like you said, in comparison to blog readers, telling his grandparents lit a renewed fire. And there’s nothing wrong with rallying the troops in a family. It’s embarassing, we don’t want them to worry about us, and we’d like to think we can take care of everything ourselves (in my fantasy mind I’m still a superwoman who can take over the universe), but that’s not always the case. Our family can offer help we might not have thought of, and they can help keep us on track. It also mitigates issues that may come from requesting family vacations, large contributions to gifts, etc.

]]> By: Corporate Barbarian http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/comment-page-1/#comment-764794 Corporate Barbarian Wed, 29 Apr 2009 16:51:31 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/?p=2534#comment-764794 It's the same advice they give you when you start a diet: tell someone. Declaring it apparently makes your commitment stronger. I'm not sure I agree, as I've kept my silence in the past, and still made progress. It’s the same advice they give you when you start a diet: tell someone. Declaring it apparently makes your commitment stronger. I’m not sure I agree, as I’ve kept my silence in the past, and still made progress.

]]> By: Jen http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/comment-page-1/#comment-764727 Jen Wed, 29 Apr 2009 14:18:12 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/?p=2534#comment-764727 *hug* I think I would have felt the same way you did if I was in that situation with his grandparents. But, I imagine they are old enough to know by now that people, even very good people, make mistakes. And, as you and your husband work on wiping out your debt, they'll be happy and proud that even though you made a mistake, you were grown-up enough to fix it!! Not everyone can do that! *hug*

I think I would have felt the same way you did if I was in that situation with his grandparents. But, I imagine they are old enough to know by now that people, even very good people, make mistakes. And, as you and your husband work on wiping out your debt, they’ll be happy and proud that even though you made a mistake, you were grown-up enough to fix it!! Not everyone can do that!

]]> By: jaye http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/comment-page-1/#comment-764696 jaye Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:09:34 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/?p=2534#comment-764696 Here's a quote I just read this morning: "Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom." -Thomas Jefferson I think the "sharing" of your situation will be beneficial to you in the long run. You will not only gain support of those who love you, but also gain the extra initiative needed to get this done. You don't want to disappoint these people further. My guess is you won't! Here’s a quote I just read this morning:

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”
-Thomas Jefferson

I think the “sharing” of your situation will be beneficial to you in the long run. You will not only gain support of those who love you, but also gain the extra initiative needed to get this done. You don’t want to disappoint these people further. My guess is you won’t!

]]> By: deviantM http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/comment-page-1/#comment-764690 deviantM Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:00:24 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/?p=2534#comment-764690 it's really important to count your financial beans all the time. it’s really important to count your financial beans all the time.

]]> By: FrugalMe http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2009/04/spilling-the-financial-beans/comment-page-1/#comment-764660 FrugalMe Wed, 29 Apr 2009 10:14:03 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/?p=2534#comment-764660 Hey Tricia, Sounds a bit like I was. It seems that everyone has that bit that is held back from family and friends because we feel that the way we will be perceived. Or that we may hear the "I told you" discussion. I realized that nothing outside me could cause to me change the way I feel about me. My family knows about my financial situation - no big deal. If they can help, absolutely fantastic, all the better for me. Changing the way I viewed the situation helped with my outlook. And I still absolutely love to travel...here's to travel around the world! Hey Tricia, Sounds a bit like I was. It seems that everyone has that bit that is held back from family and friends because we feel that the way we will be perceived. Or that we may hear the “I told you” discussion. I realized that nothing outside me could cause to me change the way I feel about me. My family knows about my financial situation – no big deal. If they can help, absolutely fantastic, all the better for me. Changing the way I viewed the situation helped with my outlook.

And I still absolutely love to travel…here’s to travel around the world!

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