Comments on: My Response to Monday’s Comments http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/ Our Journey to a Debt-Free Life Sun, 21 Mar 2010 12:23:03 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Da big D http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/comment-page-1/#comment-38530 Da big D Fri, 04 May 2007 23:53:16 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/#comment-38530 Yea, thanks for posting this. Too often we the general readers will look to critize the easy things that we see. However, now that I know the story, I think its a good idea. As long as he is working for something in the end. Yea, thanks for posting this. Too often we the general readers will look to critize the easy things that we see. However, now that I know the story, I think its a good idea. As long as he is working for something in the end.

]]> By: flippy http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/comment-page-1/#comment-38525 flippy Fri, 04 May 2007 21:09:53 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/#comment-38525 This is a great model of so many things including 1) good communication and partnership in a marriage 2) a husband who is willing to be a true partner in raising the children and supporting his wife's career and 3) your husband doing what it takes step-by-step to build a career that he will love and that draws on his skill set. However, my perspective remains a bit different based on how much I was willing to sacrifice to get out of debt in a reasonably quick manner. Were I your husband, I would be working any job (including fast food) at least 10-20 hours per week to contribute to the family getting out of debt ASAP. This would just mean less TV and leisure time. It would still allow me to spend just as much time taking care of my son and just as much time to do other jobs/projects that are more in my career field. Given that this is not your husband's approach, I wish him a lot of luck getting new projects from his boss! This is a great model of so many things including 1) good communication and partnership in a marriage 2) a husband who is willing to be a true partner in raising the children and supporting his wife’s career and 3) your husband doing what it takes step-by-step to build a career that he will love and that draws on his skill set.

However, my perspective remains a bit different based on how much I was willing to sacrifice to get out of debt in a reasonably quick manner. Were I your husband, I would be working any job (including fast food) at least 10-20 hours per week to contribute to the family getting out of debt ASAP. This would just mean less TV and leisure time. It would still allow me to spend just as much time taking care of my son and just as much time to do other jobs/projects that are more in my career field. Given that this is not your husband’s approach, I wish him a lot of luck getting new projects from his boss!

]]> By: Jen http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/comment-page-1/#comment-38517 Jen Fri, 04 May 2007 18:20:14 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/#comment-38517 Okay, I have to sound off on this one, too. My husband left our family business (a well-paying job that he hated) to work elsewhere. He had wanted to do this for years but was afraid to, knowing that he would take a pay cut. We finally realized that his happiness was worth it. I had been working VERY part time while we raised our 3 kids and now it was my turn to step up. I've taken over the family business and he works for a major corporation in sales. The pay is mediocre but the benefits a good. AND he's much happier. I'm proud that we've made this choice. There's nothing more important for our kids or our marraige for both partners to be somewhat self-actualized. The bonus is that I love our business (it was mine first) so we're both happy and making a bit more money which we're using to pay down our debt. You're doing a great thing now, as did he for you. That sounds like a very healthy marraige! Okay, I have to sound off on this one, too.

My husband left our family business (a well-paying job that he hated) to work elsewhere. He had wanted to do this for years but was afraid to, knowing that he would take a pay cut. We finally realized that his happiness was worth it. I had been working VERY part time while we raised our 3 kids and now it was my turn to step up. I’ve taken over the family business and he works for a major corporation in sales. The pay is mediocre but the benefits a good. AND he’s much happier. I’m proud that we’ve made this choice. There’s nothing more important for our kids or our marraige for both partners to be somewhat self-actualized. The bonus is that I love our business (it was mine first) so we’re both happy and making a bit more money which we’re using to pay down our debt.

You’re doing a great thing now, as did he for you. That sounds like a very healthy marraige!

]]> By: Colleen http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/comment-page-1/#comment-38497 Colleen Fri, 04 May 2007 11:48:44 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/#comment-38497 Tricia - You are absolutely right about some things being worth more than money. Except for a few years in our 26 year marriage I have worked P/T so that I could spend more time with my children. Yes, we hit some rough patches financially, but we have raised some pretty great kids in the meantime. My husband has worked all these years at a job he loves. It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing. Spending time with your child and pursuing jobs that you enjoy are going to pay off more than you can imagine. Tricia – You are absolutely right about some things being worth more than money. Except for a few years in our 26 year marriage I have worked P/T so that I could spend more time with my children. Yes, we hit some rough patches financially, but we have raised some pretty great kids in the meantime. My husband has worked all these years at a job he loves. It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing. Spending time with your child and pursuing jobs that you enjoy are going to pay off more than you can imagine.

]]> By: Maureen http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/comment-page-1/#comment-38478 Maureen Fri, 04 May 2007 07:57:08 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/#comment-38478 You and your husband should both be proud of yourselves.... and in the long run you - and your son! - will be so grateful that you had more time with your son. MUCH more grateful than if you paid off your debt a year earlier than you'd wished. and if your hubby's career takes off, you may end up paying your debt off even sooner!! You and your husband should both be proud of yourselves…. and in the long run you – and your son! – will be so grateful that you had more time with your son. MUCH more grateful than if you paid off your debt a year earlier than you’d wished. and if your hubby’s career takes off, you may end up paying your debt off even sooner!!

]]> By: Nathania Johnson http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/comment-page-1/#comment-38467 Nathania Johnson Fri, 04 May 2007 04:16:07 +0000 http://www.bloggingawaydebt.com/2007/05/my-response-to-mondays-comments/#comment-38467 There's a ton of value in your husband staying home. Both my husband and I work. The kids are his (he has full custody), and I just became the mom in January. It's really hard to balance work and family! I wish I could stay home full-time. We have so much debt it's not possible right now. I'm just glad my job has flex hours! You're right, some things aren't worth all the money in the world. There’s a ton of value in your husband staying home. Both my husband and I work. The kids are his (he has full custody), and I just became the mom in January.

It’s really hard to balance work and family!

I wish I could stay home full-time. We have so much debt it’s not possible right now. I’m just glad my job has flex hours!

You’re right, some things aren’t worth all the money in the world.

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